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When you are talking about a national guard individual, there isn't much their command can do. They are not regular duty and so the commander has less control.
While it is true that a soldier is supposed to provide support for their family members, that only refers to the money that they receive when they are on duty. If your husband is national guard, but full time, then that would help a lot.
You just need to contact his commander and you can find that out by calling the location where he drills and speaking with that unit's JAG office to complaint about lack of financial support for his family.
However, the best way to do this is really to get a civilian order from a court for child support. That can be enforced through DFAS and garnishment and the court's powers of contempt, something much more useful than a commander yelling at him.
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