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I have been with my wife for 7 years. We have a beautiful 6 year old daughter that I love more than life itself. I have never felt loved until she was born. I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I feel that I want to leave my wife but can't because I couldn't live without my daughter. The problem with my wife is her lack of pride in her own life. Her personal hygiene has declined and her weight has increased by 150 lbs. Her dental hygiene is decaying and her breath is unbearable. One day I had a difficult conversation with her, trying to be sensitive, telling her that she needs to see a dentist because her breath was getting worse. That was 6 months ago. A couple of weeks ago I bring it up and she says nothing. It's getting to the point that I can't be around her. At this point her breath can't be masked with gum and her teeths are green. In some occasions I have almost thrown up because of the smell. My wife gets free healthcare and dental from her job but does not go get checked out. I don't know what to do. I tried being sensitive and made sure she didn't feel embarrassed. I felt embarrassed for bringing it up. Now I just feel embarrassed being in public with her. I haven't seen my friends in over a year because I don't want them around my wife. I don't know what to do. What should I do?
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Mental Health Professional: TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC replied 7 months ago
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I am so sorry to hear this. It sounds to me like she may be struggling as well as lack of personal care and hygiene could be symptoms of her struggling. I would have another caring talk with her but this time coming from the place of care and concern letting her know you are worried for her and want to help her if she's struggling. Maybe she needs to see a therapist to have a safe space to talk about her feelings, etc. Hopefully she will be open to it and as she begins to feel better her hygiene may also improve. If that isn't the case then being open and honest once again about how you feel and what you feel you need is important.
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Mental Health Professional: TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC replied 7 months ago

I await your thoughts.

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