Mental Health

Have mental health questions? Ask a psychiatrist online

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

This answer was rated:

My daughter (35) and I (60) have just moved in together. I…

My daughter (35) and...

My daughter (35) and I (60) have just moved in together. I am being treated for bi polar 2. She has never been diagnosed yet believes she has ADHD. We are trying to live and support each other yet finding it so stressful that we lash out at each other. I work on this with a therapist yet not finding it helpful in real time especially when my granddaughter is present. Local resources are limited and we both are enrolled in medicare.

Doctor's Assistant: How is your mood? Are you experiencing regular sleep disturbances (e.g. trouble falling asleep, waking up early)?

I sleep in 4 hour periods and wake by 5 am

Doctor's Assistant: Anything else in your medical history you think the Psychologist should know?

My depression and manic depression has been lifelong

Doctor's Assistant: How long have you been feeling this way? Have you reached out to anyone about this yet?

I see a ARNP and a therapist, recently had to change providers and not receiving as good of care

Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Mental Health Question
Answered in 1 hour by:
11/20/2017
John-Michaels
John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC)
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 953
Experience: 25+ years helping people find solutions...
Verified
Hello, my name is John. I want to help you. It is difficult anytime a parent and adult child cohabitate. Your situation is complicated even more. The fact is you are going to argue and arguing is good. That is a method of communicating the question or concern is why and how you argue. Let me share a chapter out of my book, Marital Satisfaction Guaranteed. I think it may help even though this isn’t a marital relationship.
Ask Your Own Mental Health Question

19/11/2017 05:23

Me

Principle 9 – Handle Conflict Like Adults

One of the scariest parts of an adoption home study is when the case worker interviews your existing children. In separate interviews during the process to adopt our youngest four children, the case worker once asked Dawn and Michael what their Mom and Dad argued most about. They both responded, "Silly things that don't really matter."

If you're around someone long enough, you are going to argue. Actually, you need to argue. Arguing is simply communicating when you disagree, and nobody agrees all the time.

The challenge is to argue correctly. By correctly, I mean productively and like mature adults. Argue to find the truth, not to win a battle of the egos.

Below are Three Steps to Handling Conflict Like Adults. I hope you will give these steps a try next time you disagree. If you do it right, you might even look forward to a disagreement on occasion.

Choose Your Corners

· Know Where You Stand

In order to argue, you must be willing to take a stand. Know what you believe and stand for what you believe.

· State it Clearly

Don't be ashamed of where you stand. If you don't proclaim it, they will never know it. State it clearly, but kindly. Make sure they understand where you are coming from.

· Stand Firm on the Truth

I talk of compromise and concession here soon. They are very important for consensus. Do not back down from the truth, though.

The truth is that part you know to be fact. Know where you draw the line, but be willing to give to that point and make sure that point is worth standing for.

Cover with Love

· Remain Calm

Don't get excited. This should be nothing personal. You are simply in search of the truth. Yelling and raising your voice will do nothing but widen the gap between you and the one you love.

· No Criticism or Name Calling

As I said, this should be nothing personal. Focus on the issues, not the messenger. Be respectful even in your critique of their stand. Keep it pertinent and kind.

· Communicate Effectively

Follow the steps of communication outlined in Principle 3, particularly the three laws of communication. Remember, arguing is a form of communication. It is important that you communicate effectively to prevent misunderstanding and escalation.

Consensus, Not Conquest

· Consider Both Sides

There is no way to know your view is best until you consider first the other view. Seriously consider their view as the possible solution. Compare the two, noting the positives and negatives.[BS1]

· Compromise Where Possible

The truth is usually found right in the middle between two opposing views. Don't be stubborn. Search for truth, not victory.

· Concede if Wrong

Don't be afraid to be wrong. Admit it. Embrace it. Confess it. It's not about being right. It's about discovering what's right. Usually compromise is the solution, but sometimes somebody just needs to eat some crow and admit they're wrong.

Conclude with an Embrace

It is often said that "The best part of breaking up is making up." Let's make that saying come true. After all, if you argue correctly, you deserve an embrace. Seriously, give yourself something to look forward to as you hash out your differences. Make all the hard work worthwhile. Why not give it a try?

Though conflict may not be desirable in marriage, it is inevitable. As long as we are putting two human beings together there will be conflict. I am not condoning it, but simply stating the obvious. Granted, the more consistently you apply the various principles I have covered, the less conflict you are liable to encounter. If you do encounter conflict, though, at least handle it like adults. No screaming, no name calling, and no slamming doors. Seek compromise, not conquest

Ask Your Own Mental Health Question

I hope that was helpful. If it was please give me a five star rating so I
can be paid

John-Michaels
John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC)
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 953
Experience: 25+ years helping people find solutions...
Verified
John-Michaels and 87 other Mental Health Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
Was this answer helpful?

How JustAnswer works

step-image
Describe your issueThe assistant will guide you
step-image
Chat 1:1 with a mental health professionalLicensed Experts are available 24/7
step-image
100% satisfaction guaranteeGet all the answers you need
Ask John-Michaels Your Own Question
John-Michaels
John-Michaels
John-Michaels, Counselor (LPC)
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 953
953 Satisfied Customers
Experience: 25+ years helping people find solutions...

John-Michaels is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much

Corrie MollPretoria, South Africa

I thank-you so much! It really helped to have this information and confirmation. We will watch her carefully and get her in for the examination and US right away if things do not improve. God bless you as well!

ClaudiaAlbuquerque, NM

Outstanding response time less than 6 minutes. Answered the question professionally and with a great deal of compassion.

KevinBeaverton, OR

Suggested diagnosis was what I hoped and will take this info to my doctor's appointment next week.
I feel better already! Thank you.

ElanorTracy, CA

Thank you to the Physician who answered my question today. The answer was far more informative than what I got from the Physicians I saw in person for my problem.

JulieLockesburg, AR

You have been more help than you know. I seriously don't know what my sisters situation would be today if you had not gone above and beyond just answering my questions.

John and StefanieTucson, AZ

I have been dealing with an extremely serious health crisis for over three years, and one your physicians asked me more questions, gave me more answers and encouragement than a dozen different doctors who have been treating me!!

Janet VPhoenix, AZ

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

Dr. Keane

Dr. Keane

Therapist

1,379 satisfied customers

Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.

TherapistMarryAnn

TherapistMarryAnn

Therapist

4,021 satisfied customers

Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.

Dr. Olsen

Dr. Olsen

Psychologist

2,336 satisfied customers

PsyD Psychologist

Norman M.

Norman M.

Principal psychotherapist in private practice. Newspaper contributor, over 2000 satisfied clients on JA

2,246 satisfied customers

ADHP(NC), DEHP(NC), ECP, UKCP Registered.

Dr. Michael

Dr. Michael

Psychologist

2,177 satisfied customers

Licensed Ph.D. Clinical Health Psychology with 30 years of experience in private practive and as a clinical psychology university professor.

Steven Olsen

Steven Olsen

Therapist

1,728 satisfied customers

More than twenty years of expertise in counseling, psychological diagnosis and education

Anna

Anna

Mental Health Professional

1,656 satisfied customers

Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 29 years in addictions and mental health.

< Previous | Next >

Related Mental Health Questions
My wife is 50 is a senior executive and main breadwinner in
Hi, My wife is 50 is a senior executive and main breadwinner in the house usually. She recently was retrenched from her job and this is the third time it has occurred in the last 5 years. She blames h… read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
430 satisfied customers
I have severe health anxiety and now I'm scared I have
I have severe health anxiety and now I'm scared I have schizophrenia although I'm not having hallucinations or anything I started reading about it and feel like my anxiety has been way worst ever sinc… read more
LeahMSWuofm
LeahMSWuofm
Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
1,049 satisfied customers
I have two questions. I am a gay male and I believe that I
I am a gay male and I believe that I was born gay. My mother told me that I would not kiss females when I was a baby. I would gladly kiss males. I also started kissing guys That I remember when I was three. I continued doing this until the 6th grade. I heard my older male relatives talking about gay people when I was 5 and told my mother I was gay. She thought I was a little boy who just didn't like girls and that puberty would fix it. That wasn't the case. I am a k6, I took the test. Why did I know so early and why do some gay males not know until they are in high school or college? … read more
LeahMSWuofm
LeahMSWuofm
Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
1,049 satisfied customers
Can you take zanax, zoloft, together. Never. Insomnia. I
can you take zanax, zoloft, together JA: Have you taken Zoloft or anything similar before? Customer: never JA: How have you been sleeping? Any insomnia or other issues? Customer: yes insomnia JA: Anyt… read more
Dr. Kaushik
Dr. Kaushik
PSYCHIATRIST ( MD Psychiatry)
Doctoral Degree
204 satisfied customers
Anxiety treated fir 4 years, I had a brief few months where
anxiety treated fir 4 years, I had a brief few months where it left me and I took my grand son to Myrtle Beach and ent to Montreal for a vacation. A year ago in April I was seen for Parkinson Disease … read more
Dr. Kaushik
Dr. Kaushik
PSYCHIATRIST ( MD Psychiatry)
Doctoral Degree
204 satisfied customers
My husband and I were talking & have come to the conclusion
Hello , my husband and I were talking & have come to the conclusion that he needs help. We fear that he is bipolar and don't know how to go about this … read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
430 satisfied customers
I'm really depressed and it seems too hard to even set up an
I'm really depressed and it seems too hard to even set up an appointment … read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
430 satisfied customers
I am currently taking 50mgs of Zoloft and have taken Prozac
HiI am currently taking 50mgs of Zoloft and have taken Prozac prop for about 5-6 years. I am concerned about the long term effects of taking Zoloft or ssri's like memory loss/dementia/etc.What are the… read more
LeahMSWuofm
LeahMSWuofm
Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
1,049 satisfied customers
I have hocd. I have and they tested me negative for
I have and they tested me negative for traditional ocd … read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
430 satisfied customers
I am wanting to take care of my 73 mom whom has Lupus, CHF,
I am wanting to take care of my 73 mom whom has Lupus, CHF, ESRD, COPD . We discussed her staying with me permanently and at one point we talked about her initially visiting and she would leave clothe… read more
Ashleigh
Ashleigh
Neurodevelopmental Psychologist
Master of Education in Educational Psychology
20 satisfied customers
I have what I can only imagine is a dissociative disorder. I
I have what I can only imagine is a dissociative disorder. I was badly sexually and physically abused for my entire childhood. I have a lot of suppressed memories, that have somewhat come up in nightm… read more
Ashleigh
Ashleigh
Neurodevelopmental Psychologist
Master of Education in Educational Psychology
20 satisfied customers
I'm interested in online therapy on a regular ongoing basis.
Hi I'm interested in online therapy on a regular ongoing basis … read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
430 satisfied customers
Can you have PTSD from emotional abuse. About 16 just yes
Can you have PTSD from emotional abuse JA: When did the PTSD start? Have you used any medication for this? Customer: About 16 just yes for depression JA: How have you been sleeping? Any insomnia or ot… read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
430 satisfied customers
My fiancée needs a psychiatrist in Lincolnton to get his
My fiancée needs a psychiatrist in Lincolnton to get his meds and counseling. His psychiatrist is in Gastonia and it's almist impossible to get him there because the family works days only. Please let… read more
LeahMSWuofm
LeahMSWuofm
Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
1,049 satisfied customers
I am torn apart and keep crying as I can't make up my mind.
I am torn apart and keep crying as I can't make up my mind. My almost 11-year old dog (my heart dog) has advanced cancer and I am at the stage of pre-grieving, giving her love and foods she loves. I c… read more
LeahMSWuofm
LeahMSWuofm
Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
1,049 satisfied customers
I need help i have lost my sex drive do to menapose can you
my name is ***** ***** need help i have lost my sex drive do to menapose can you help i am afraid i am going to lose my man friend. … read more
Rafael-E-Therapist
Rafael-E-Therapist
Director / Psychotherapist
Master\u0027s Degree
430 satisfied customers
I don't know what to do as far as not getting more stressed
I don't know what to do as far as not getting more stressed out and keeping it together for my own sanity and my family's. There has been so much going on in my life in the last 2 years that is hard t… read more
Ashleigh
Ashleigh
Neurodevelopmental Psychologist
Master of Education in Educational Psychology
20 satisfied customers
I spoke to you a while ago about my mom having a hard time
Hi i spoke to you a while ago about my mom having a hard time with my dad passing. I am still having a hard time dealing with her grief. She is not getting through it very well and it seems to be gett… read more
LeahMSWuofm
LeahMSWuofm
Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
1,049 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x