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You stay the course for what we decided yesterday...I know you want to do more and reach out but that will have him end things immediately. I know you are hurting and angry but it is the only way.
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If you confront it is the fastest way to an ending. If this is part of the space he needs then that is what he will do...if it doesn't work for you then you can end it, but if you go to his house, confront him, text him or anything similar you most likely will get a quick answer of its over. Don't read into anything about his behavior that he is sending a message...he is living in the space that he desires right now.
You are making a lot of assumptions about his space. If you can't take the space then only you can decide to walk away but if you don't want to walk away then honoring it is the only choice.
Hi space may involve putting himself out there to see how it feels. If you feel that you must reach out to him, then that is your call, I just don't see it going the way you hope and looking at the long goal is what should happen.
I know you wish he would have told you...wouldn't it be great if everyone said and behaved in the way we believe they should? It just doesn't go like that. The best way to have a chance is to leave him be....he needs his space and in that space it may involve others..you can't control that and again the only thing you can control is you and if you can't tolerate the space then you have choices on whether to stay.
People feelings and emotions change so even if he said those things last week, he may have new feelings this week.
Follow what you feel is right for you...I can only suggest what I believe is a good course.
yes this is what I was trying to impress upon you yesterday. We don't know any outcome but my expertise does tell me if you reach out now, it will be over for sure.
WE can go round and round and let it drive you crazy or we can sit back for a bit, take time to yourself and let things play out.
And you are allowed all of your feelings!
Stop thinking it is a game and playing one yourself. I have given you my best thoughts and they won't change but only you can make the choices that feel right for you.
I wouldn't play any games, social media or otherwise and I would go silent and take the time for myself!
yes that is correct.
This is what he wants now so give him the space or end it if you can't.
no way to know the outcome so you get to choose how to feel..to have hope or not.
I would stay off his social media and not look and give the space he asked for and let it play out.
I will be signing off for the night in a few just as an fyi.
I am on board with that plan!!! As I said last night..be strong, take care of you and go nourish yourself now.
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