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OKMH617211 I want to bring my son to counselling but his dad won't let me. He also is discouraging me from taking him to family doctors for his mental health. He is telling my son what he can and can't talk about and insists on coming with us should we go. I suspect psychological abuse. Is this a form of it? There's a lot of bullying and control ,yelling and criticizing going on as well . Am I just going crazy or is there a type of agency I can contact for help?
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I am sorry to hear you're going through this experience. It does sound like you may both be experiencing psychological abuse. You are not "crazy," and there are agencies that can assist.
What do you think would happen if you made an appointment with your sons primary care doctor and shared your concerns (first, what is going on with your son, and then with your son out of the room, your concerns about his father)? It may be that the medical professional has to contact child services, depending on the level of emotional abuse the medical professional believes is at play. Also, what do you think would happen if you made an appointment with a mental health professional OR had your son see the counselor at school?
I think it's a great idea to have a lawyer involved. Are you planning on leaving your husband? I only ask because I am worried about any potential repercussions he may attempt given what you are going to do. The lawyer will be able to assist with determining what steps you need to take next in order to ensure safety of yourself and your son, as well as, ensuring your sons needs are met.
Okay, that's great that to hear that you are not legally married - as this may make the process easier (the lawyer will be able to give you more information). It does not sound like a safe situation for you or your son - I would work with your friend on contacting a local domestic violence shelter in your area (as the most dangerous time in a violent relationship is when one party leaves). If you need help finding resources in your area, I can assist with this (please let me know your location, it will be blurred in the content on our discussion).
I would worry about the money and a PI after you and your son are safe and away from this man.
I'm glad to hear you're stable now - it is also important for you to be functioning as best as you can, in order to best help your son. I would strongly suggest entering into your own treatment (if you are not already), as this will help with the entire process from leaving your partner to helping your son. People will listen - this is his way of attempting to gain control over you and it sounds like you are aware of his tactics. It also sounds like your son wants help - which is great!