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Wow, that would be tough for anyone. What boundaries have you set-up with him? Are there any that work? I do not think there is anything wrong with you - individuals with narcissistic personality disorder are very charming and at one point (and maybe part of you still does) loved this individual. Maybe there's a part of you that believes he will change, as he's likely promised this.
I am sorry to hear you're going through this, it sounds like it is very difficult. There is no one way to "get over" someone. I think no contact is an excellent idea and a challenging one. Have you set-up fun things to do for yourself so you're out of the house and not obsessing over him?
Also, have you heard of the cycle of abuse (it does not just have to be physical abuse, it can be mental/emotional abuse as well)?
My apologies, my first text doesn't appear to have gone through. What I had said what that this must be very challenging for you and I am sorry to hear you're going through this. Have you tried getting out of the house and doing things (or setting up things to do with friends or family... or even on your own)? This may help to get your mind off of him. I do think that while it is challenging to go "cold turkey" it is likely your best option. Also, no one just "gets over" someone they loved, this will take time.
Excellent, I am glad to hear you're keeping yourself busy. Yes, that is also not uncommon - unfortunately. I would think you're harboring a lot of guilt/shame surrounding the relationship, along with sadness and maybe some anger at yourself regarding your love for him. While this is challenging, you must remember that this is not your fault... this is his MO. Have you thought about going into 1:1 counseling with a local provider?
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Glad to hear you're doing okay. Yes, 1 minute at a time. Ah, okay. There are clinics that specialize in domestic violence relationships - sounds like there might not be any near you? It will take time for those feelings to decrease. However, it is with hope that they will. Have you tried writing down everything that happened so it's out of your head and on paper?
Okay. So, unfortunately life events that have occurred do not go away - even if we wish them away or try to use substance to make them go away. These are evens that have happened... what I usually tell my clients is that I work with them to work through what they experienced and they move forward in life - this can take a long time. So, my question is - how do you work to move forward from this?
And that's okay. How long ago did the break-up occur? You may feel lost for some time. I think at this point in time you're living life at basic functioning (e.g., wake-up, shower, eat, work, sleep, etc.) - and that's okay. This will take time to heal. Your core being has been hurt, it takes time to heal those wounds.
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