My question is really how to understand this behavior, why, what mental distraction/ condition contributes to it, understanding is key in my opinion. Yes, we have done this for a few years now , 4 ? or 5 ? and for the most part the benefits have largely outweighed the negatives. Check the www that I told you to understand. We have live in help/ volunteers who tend the dogs, get up early to put them out, do house work , do yard work, help in all ways you can think of - some better than others of course. At the same time we host interesting people from around the world that adds
much to our own knowledge and makes life interesting. We had a young woman from Kiev not long ago, Taiwan, China, and it all goes to make me better informed for real, not just what I read. It also confirmed that profiling is absolutely valid. Like we say, birds of a feather do flock together. Blind folded I could categorize 99 % of our guests correctly. I wonder if you could recommend a book or reference that may illuminate this annoying habit that most have of leaving things open, ajar, unlocked, open ? I still think its a throw back to the days when we lived in caves that had no doors. Of course I can stop hosting - I often take a break from it and from having strangers live in my home. But look. I am going for 2 weeks to a resort the month . The French girl knows the routine, knows our dogs, has no key for the front gate and that's ok with her, and I can trust her to do the basic cleaning all the time including when I am not here. At no cost to me. I am not her employer and she is not an employee, but she is a live in guest with us who is very helpful all the time , as agreed via help x. I have a young man and his dog who have transformed my garden and repotted all our plants and loves the little dogs , who helps me carry stuff , clean the car, better than my own sons, and I am teaching him English. Its a win - win most of the time. f y i in the beginning he also had grabbed the kitchen cabinets with both hands. Now - no. I had him spray and clean them as a lesson in 'do not put hands on the cabinets, use the handles' . And so on. Its the WHY most humans do this that interests me - what kind of malfunctioning does the human brain do ? Like inversion that also is universal. When I was working for my carrier, I knew that if a passenger told me that they had reservations on flight 106 that they were on our flight 601. Done deal every time, no matter what city they were in , no matter if they were what nationality , it is the same - inversion.