Good evening and thank you so much for your message. I realize it's difficult to reach out. Please know I honor your courage.
My name is ***** ***** I am a psychotherapist in the Metro Boston area of the United States.
My heart absolutely aches for you as it's difficult enough to walk away from what sounds like a long-term relationship....no less try to function after being emotional abused and trying to manage when your ex-partner has serious psychiatric issues and is blaming you. I am so sorry.
The e-mails you have received from who you believe is a psychiatrist sound incredibly fishy as a psychiatrist is, by law, required to maintain absolutely confidentiality. I'm wondering if these are coming from someone else? Perhaps a friend or family member of your ex? Whatever the case, these e-mails need to stop as they are blaming and horribly inappropriate...not to mention hurtful for you. Please, I beg you, respond to the person sending them insisting they stop and block his/her e-mail address. You can no longer have further communication.
It sounds like the two of you lived together? Is this correct? If so, are there financial things that need to be addressed between the two of you? Is the shared property a rental or something owned? Does it make sense to get an attorney to help sort through these complicated pieces? Or, is it pretty cut clear who owns what?
You have been horribly emotionally abused in your relationship and I imagine you are a bit traumatized. It sounds like you are even experiencing PTSD symptoms. Please reach out to a local therapist for some support in how to move forward as this is no doubt, terrifying and I worry about your overall health having experienced this.
Please do what you need to do to ensure your immediate safety as well as cut off all ties/communication with your ex. Secondly, please ensure you have dealt with the separation of all household items and ensure you have a safe comfortable place to live where you cannot be bothered by him. Thirdly, please begin the emotional work necessary to move on with your life. This may include spending time alone or with friends, writing, reading self-help books, therapy, exercise or whatever gives you comfort. Surround yourself with those who love you and are on your side.
This too, sweet soul, will pass. I am so sorry you has been your history.
Have I answered your question? Is there anything else I can do to assist you further? I want to ensure you are pleased with my service. I also gently request you provide a star rating for me. Of course, we can continue to talk after the rating is provided.
Please take good care of yourself and feel free to contact me with any questions you may have.