Good evening and thank you so much for your message. I realize it's difficult to reach out. Please know I honor your courage.
My name is ***** ***** I am a psychotherapist in the Metro Boston area.
Ohhhh Georgette, my heart aches for you as this situation is horribly difficult. I can absolutely understand your frustration with your fiance's son. He sounds very immature (put mildly) and absolutely undisciplined. I fear you trying to correct his poor behaviors have created the beginnings of tension between you and your fiance. I imagine your fiance is absolutely overwhelmed and unsure what he would like for his future.
My ultimate concern is that your fiance was unable to come to you and communicate his frustration or concerns. Leaving a note to a finance of two years, asking she not contact him is horribly childlike and downright cruel. This leaves you unable to speak with him, without answers for the future and without an direction for how to proceed.
I cannot imagine how you must be feeling but imagine your emotions are all over the board...ranging from confusion to anger. Has communication been an issue in your relationship all along? Leaving a note to communicate something so enormous with a partner is irresponsible and immature.
Based upon how this situation has been handled, I imagine you question the relationship all together. What is it that you would like to do? Do you still love your fiance? Is he willing to seek psychotherapy? Are you? Or, do you feel you must move forward on your own?
Have I answered your question? Is there anything else I can do to assist you further? I want to ensure you are pleased with my service. I also gently request you provide a star rating for me. Of course, we can continue to talk after the rating is provided.
Please take good care of yourself and feel free to contact me with any questions you may have.