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TherapistJen, LCSW, CPC
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How can overcome the dislike I feel for my daughter-in-law?

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How can overcome the dislike I feel for my daughter-in-law? I am kind, cordial and listen to her; however, what she did to me when my husband died ten years ago, I still can't let go.
Submitted: 11 months ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 11 months ago.

Sorry to hear of this pain. Please let me know how she behaved after your husbands passing.

Expert:  TherapistJen replied 11 months ago.

and if you ever shared your feelings with her about the experience.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.
I buried my husband on Nov. 17, 2006. I usually have a Christmas eve dinner and my daughters attend - one from NC (she drives in with hubby and 2 kids, the other one flies in with hubby from Chicago. On the 23rd of Dec. 2006, she came to my house to drop off some presents and then out of nowhere, she started attacking me--(Yes please call me but not today - I'm crying again because I feel so alienated from my son and my grandchildren.) She's done it again! My number is ***********
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 11 months ago.

She acted in an inappropriate manner and not just because your husband had just passed but also out of respect that you are her mother in law and mother of her husband. You have tired to be kind and cordial but it sounds like you may need to speak with her directly and set the boundary about what you will tolerate from her and how hurt you have been. I would also talk with your son and let him know how you love and care for him and want an easy and harmonious relationship with all.

*please don't give personal info here such as your phone number. Once we are done, I will write to customer service to have it locked for privacy reasons.

Expert:  TherapistJen replied 11 months ago.

I am here when you are ready.