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Hello and thank you for writing to us. My name is ***** ***** I'd like to help. I am so sorry to hear about your current struggle. But I do want to congratulate you on getting yourself in treatment to try and get your alcohol use under control. Hopefully this means you have a more positive future ahead of you for your own sake and also that of your family.
Since your wife said she needs some space right now, the best advice that I have is for you to give her that space. It will be really trying on you to honor it but to lead to the best outcome, you really do need to respect her wishes and focus on your own treatment. If you can continue to demonstrate to her that you are serious about getting your alcohol use under control and are focusing on this, hopefully she will see how seriously you are making efforts to change and will give you another chance. Your actions right now will speak louder than your words and since you can only control your own behavior but not hers, seeking positive change in yourself is an excellent step.
I know this is so hard on you. Breaks in relationships can be extremely lonely butt perhaps this represents an opportunity. If you continue to just give your wife the space she needs right now, when the time is right, she will seek you out. When you do communicate, make sure you focus on explaining to her all the ways in which you are making progress for the sake of you and your family rather than focusing on attempt to make her come back to you right now. Fortunately, your wife sought a temporary separation, not divorce, which is promising that she has hope for your relationship.
I hope this was helpful and gives you some encouragement that you are on the right track despite the distance you are currently feeling from her. I know it is hard but you keep up the good work and focus on your treatment. She will notice your efforts.