My name is***** hard to type a short version of what is going on.
My son who is 26 I recently found it is smoking pot. It is legal in Oregon.
He is not just smoking a little, he is smoking a LOT.
He recently has lost 2 or more jobs, is using my moms bank account she set up for him to pay his rent.. and he is going to grad school ( I think)
He is coughing a lot and has started smoking cigarettes.
He says he is depressed, has underlying anxiety
and he has never had a girlfriend and is lonely. He is very smart.. genius level IQ and has always felt picked on and that he didnt fit in. He cant go outside without looking " just so" because he feels that people are judging him. His apartment ( which is too expensive for him) is falling apart with his oven, and toilet not working. Some kind of water or moisture damage on the wall. The ceiling is turning yellow. he has 2 cats, which he says hes Trying to find homes for. ( he has had them for 13 years).
I tried to talk with him when I found out that he was smoking weed. Both he dad and I have past addiction problems. Me with demerol and his dad with weed and alochol. I NEVER thought that he would do this. He has always been a " non medicator" and vegan.
He started hanging with people at his prior restaurnt job that turned him onto weed. He has also told me that he has chronic knee pain ( i never knew).
I am worried so much that my stomach hurts. The other night he said he felt sweaty like he had a fever, but no fever. In my opinion he was detoxing and I told him that. He lies .. and i'm not sure why, maybe to cover up the problem, maybe to tell himself that " he's ok". I really dont know what to do. He wont move into a cheaper place, he wont go talk with a therapist about his anxiety or even THINK about taking anything. He thinks that this weed is the best thing on the planet. It makes him social, takes his pain away, takes his insomnia
away. But it's also cost him several jobs. He wants to get a job as an architect or at a firm, but the way he smells like weed, it's doubtful he'll get hired. Do I just let him implode? the more I try to talk to him, the angrier he gets. He came over for his brothers grad party yesterday and was getting stoned.. right in the back yard about every 1/2 hour to 45 min.. I worry that I'm going to lose him. I do not know if this is all he is doing. I think it is, but not sure. He is also smoking cigarettes.. not sure how many. He coughs alot.