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I don't know if I have ED or not but I don't have an issue

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hello, I don't know if I have ED or not but I don't have an issue getting excited or having orgasms but it seems that my wife need more stimulation. I do masturbate often also when she doesn't want to have sex. Today I was not able to keep an erection after 20 minutes even though I didn't have an orgasm. First time this happened. What could be the causes?
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr. Z replied 1 year ago.

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Hello and thank you for using JustAnswer. If this is only a one time incident of you not able to keep an erection than this is not a case of ED as that is more of a systematic problem that lasts for at least a couple months. You may be physically exhausted if your masturbate too often, so try to withhold masturbation for a couple days and see if that helps you in terms of achieving an orgasm wit your wife. Another possibility is that this may be anxiety related because you have this focus of pleasing your wife even though you said she "need more stimulation," and that can cause performance anxiety if you are worried/concerned about that. Try to focus on foreplay and ultimately enjoying the moment with your wife.