work: I'm the outcast on...
I feel super stressed right now. for a number of reasons. 1.
work: I'm the outcast on a team of 4 supervisors. They dont like me because I dont think all processes that they come up with and the way that they manage is effective. I have stated this in
a professional way, but because I'm outspoken, they talk behind my back and or just dont talk to me at all. They are also jealous i feel because the staff come to me with issues, even when it's not my direct staff, and they feel free to speak with me. I help
them on their medical units, and I think for that reason I've earned their respect. whereas the other supervisors sit in their rooms, and never offer to help or go be seen in the dept.s that they supervise. Last week, my " partner" who annoys the crap out
of me said " dealing with me was like having a conversation with a child". I have been in my business for 30 years, and have always felt professional, and dealt with co workers and people who report to me in a professional way. Last week I asked her if she
could help me cover my area that i supervise. ( it's been made clear by my boss that this is part of her job also). I asked her if she could cover, and she said " i dont know what you mean". I again asked the same question, but was more specific. no response
via e mail. The next thing i know she's in my office looking mad. I asked if she was having a bad day , and she said " not until I came down here". Then she told me that dealing with me was like having a conversation with a child. I was shocked, my office
mate heard it to. I waited until she was done talking and then told her that I was sorry that she felt that way, and that she did
not need to treat me like a child. I think I imparted that she was never to speak to me again that way. I never addressed it with
my boss, but she is still very difficult to get along with , and always has been. She is very process driven, and I'm very , " lets try it and tweak it later". But i've never been unprofessional. My office mate who we get along the best of all of the mgrs
is out this week, and the 2 upstairs have not spoken to me at all this week. They obviously do not like me. My boss however thinks that I'm doing a great job, but it's difficult to feel like the one picked on at recess. We have had multiple mgmt meetings where
we all try to discuss the issues amongst us, but things never really change. My boss never really holds them accountable. the other stress
, is my son. Him and his girlfriend live with us. He has been living with us for 2 + years and she moved in last summer
while they both attend a local college. They are both 21. THey both have been paying their auto insurance and phone bills but we have not been charging them rent. I love them both. They decided last month that they wanted to get a puppy. We have 2 large dogs
already, but i talked my husband into it. The puppy has been there now for 3 weeks. She is super cute but only 2 lbs. Our other dogs are 130 lbs. so we cant really let them run around together because the puppy can get hurt. My son and his girlfriend are looking
at moving into a place. but they have been " looking " for months. They are both not in a great financial state, and I did tell them that having the puppy would complicate things as now they have to look for rentals that are " pet friendly". Their school starts
the end of august. I have told them that they need to start looking NOW< because in our area places rent SUPER quickly. My son just says they ARE looking, but I know of several places available that they havent even applied for. I am also disagreeing w/ my
spouse in that I can help them out with about 200.00 / month while they are both going to school and working. He thinks we shouldnt help them out at all. It's becoming really tense in the house with us always having to do dishes they leave in the sink. I found
puppy poop under the end table yesterday and just EVERYTHING.. i never thought i'd say this but i'm ready for my house back and to have a life again with my spouse. between work and home, i feel like i'm going to explode. ALso I keep hearing that they might
close my dept at work . so i have dr's and staff coming to me asking what's up... and I cant really say anything. We are planning a sit down meeting with my son and his girlfriend this week sometime. My son said last week that he " hates those meetings" because
alls' we tell them is what they need to do and that he needs his parents to be his " friends" first and parents second. In addition. my husband is his step dad, as his real dad and i divorced in 2010. I feel guilty that I left him behind w/ his dad .. and
now kind of feel like i have to be nice, and make up for lost time.... sigh.. Signed.. nervous wreck.......