when we first got to...
when we first got to know each other, he told me I want to marry you but I cant do it now, its better if you stay in your parents house, get your degree and when youre done with school, we will get married and have a decent ceremony. he said meanwhile he would be able to save up. few month after he decided that he doesnt want to wait until I finish school and he said we get married next year and you dont have to work when you go to school so you can finish it up faster. He said he can save up for our wedding in the one year we have left. next month is that one year we were supposed to have our wedding, we didnt save up a penny. we're barely making it. we moved in 3 month a go, because when his mom left, he couldnt afford 1400$ rent. when she was a round, he only paid 600$ for the rent and his mom paid the rest. he made 2000$ monthly and didnt save a penny when she was around. 4 month into our relationship, i didnt have a car, so he pushed me to getting one, because he didnt want me to go to school by bus, he told i take care of the monthly lease payment. He pushed me into getting a 5000$ credit card so I can make a down payment, and lease a bmw. Im not blaming him all the way, but he pushed me into this, I wasnt happy with it, I wanted a cheaper car where payment wouldnt go over 250$ but he kept pushing me and telling me dont worry about the car payment. I make enough, I pay it. and he did
pay it but that meant not being able to save anything. 420$ for bmw, and 200$ for his own car, plus 350$ for insurance because he had 2 accidents and couple tickets, my driving record was completly clean. cars alone with insurance costs him 1000$, add
up the gas to work, I barely went anywhere, but on the weekend he wanted to drive the bmw so add 50$ gas every week, and resturants and hookah bars we went to every single weekend. we never stayed home, I wanted to but he always got mad at me, that I go to work 5 days a week, and i deserve to enjoy my weekend. thats why 1 year and a half through our relationship and we dont have a penny, and when I try to talk to him about this, he gets angry and yell at me, and tell me If im not happy I can leave. He keeps saying that I worked for both of us, and I had bought everything you could every dream of, things that your own parents never did for you, and this is how you thank me. I never asked him to do any of those things for me, he practicly forced me into buying me things, and taking me to vacations. I forgot to mention we went to vegas 4 times, once I wanted to and the rest he wanted and made me agree to it, add that up to cost as well. 4 month ago, around the times his mom left to another city, he lost his job as well, so he started working on uber as a driver, on his own time. first 2 month it was good, but then one week he was sick and he didnt go, and the next week I got sick and he didnt go to take care of me, after that I feel like its hard for him to work anymore. one day he goes, next day he fights with me over a little thing, and he just doesnt go. we are supposed to just register as husband and wife in a month, and then have the ceremony by the end of the year, but Im scared that day never comes, like the rest of his promises. Im scared to marry him, because when I look back, nothing he promised, he was able to carry it out. I dont know what to do