Dr. Z only:
No chat please, since I cannot see it properly on my phone
I hope you can help. I feel so stuck.
I am struggling so much with emotional overeating. The pain of my loneliness, isolation due to constant sadness and hopeless has made it so I have not been able to cope without the overuse of food to self medicate and clam, numb and lift my mood.
No other meds have worked in my over the course of 14 years of trying so they are no longer an option.
I went through a long course of DBT outpatient work and still that did
not completely resonate with me.
When feelings get so overwhelming and scary and painful I feel I have to turn to food to lift the mood and take the edge off but it backfires an hour later and makes me feel more out of control and heavier.
I spend most of my weekends in bed due to lack of motivation and no energy and sadness. Just pass the time.
If I could just get a proper grip and totally transform my body with weightloss I would feel so healthy and proud.
It is just that the lack or ability to tolerate distress and good enough self soothing have not happened yet. When people just take a warm bath or go for a walk that just does not work against the explosion of sadness and pain.
I wonder how slim people handle their overwhelming pain.
I am so aware of the process of feeling powerless and turning to food that will make me feel worse after the fact but it has been the most affect coping mechanism but harms me after.
Exercise and therapy have not helped me during the times I am not engaged in them at that moment.
I feel so low and hopeless
I feel no motivation for my life - what's the point for going through like like this?
I have no friends and have not been able to make any because I do not have and upbeat energy to me.
I seem to always notice problems instead of being light and breezy.
I am a very intense female. I have intensity in my expression and verbage.
I tend to be very black in white in my thinking and too sensitive.
I assume the worse since I have been let down so much.
I worry about certain things before they happen because I feel that I will be better prepared if I start now.
I cannot seem to cope with events that trigger failure or stress
for me. Ex: Ex spouse calling hearing his voice and news of all of his glory.
I am so awkward socially.
I feel so devastated by my loneliness and lack of having much to offer.
I can't seem to take much initiative. Its too hard.
I isolate be it is do hard to interact with people.
I am very meek unless I am paying for a service then I take more of a stand.
It feels that I have no backbone at times.
I have trouble setting boundries with people.
I feel truly overwhelmed by appointments and normal tasks such as washing dishes and laundry.
I do not know how to comfortably converse with people unless I am leaning on them for support or talking about myself in therapy.
I Feel the necessity to use food to feel better by calming, distracting and numbing.
I am so fatigued most of the time with no physical energy or stamina.
No more gusto like I had 10 years ago.
No more guts either
Suffer severe emotional stress on a daily basis.
It as if I do not have emotional skin I cry alot and am such a overly sensitive and fragile minded female.
I feel powerless about how to deal with my self-doubts
I feel powerless about how to get real satisfaction in life
I feel powerless to insure my own safety
I feel powerless to appropriately assert my independence
I feel powerless to fill myself up when I feel empty inside