Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX the site but am worried nothing would ultimately happen because while she has gone behind my back telling people "He (me) is nuts" - which in and of itself isn't "practicing psychology" - but I don't know for sure who all she has told that to. Heck, I've called her nuts too - she IS nuts - but I'm not making demands on her.
I guess what I'm trying to get at is where does a "family squabble" end and "practicing psychology without a license" begin?
I do have one neighbor who knows a little about this and I do know of one relative in Texas she talked to - he got back to me about it - and the neighbor has told me she's scared of my Mother, but I would certainly include her in any info I give to the state.
This started when a cousin's house burned down, and she (MK for brevity) was getting pity and attention. That's when my Mother blew up at me - in public on Facebook....and I saved a screen capture of it.
After I was shot, she began helping me financially. That day where MK's house burned down was when Mom yanked all her financial help, demanded I "show her respect," and since I've been doing that (ie: no sarcastic comments back to her when she treats me like a 4 y/o child), she's moved the goalposts as it were until now she's DEMANDING I do "community service."
I told her NO - please stop, I can't do that except on my own timetable....I joined the Freemasons and plan to do my own good works of MY choosing, but after I said NO (withdrawing my request for financial help) she has continued to insist on this. It's really apparently an obsession she has at this point.
She and I have the same physician and he's the one I saw the Monday following the Friday evening she pushed me so much that I had the panic attack. Monday - 3 days later - my BP was 157/107 and I have zero history of hypertension.
The doctor called her personally on the phone the following Monday and then I talked to him regarding roughly what her reaction was.
SINCE THEN, she asked I mow the neighbor's yard - something I might have done anyway - and I don't mind doing that since I know the neighbor (same one as I mentioned above). The neighbor was happy with the yard work she pays for, told me she doesn't pay much and is happy with it but thanks. I later relayed this to my Mom in hopes she would finally leave me alone.
Nope. Mom apparently called B (neighbor) to "check my story" and B said it was odd that Mom actually got a little upset and ask her THAT SHE RECONSIDER.
This has long stopped being about any financial help and has (after reflection now) ALWAYS been about her insatiable need for power and control over me.
We went over the book "Boundaries" at the urging of my own Counselor, and I let Mom know I'm being treated BY PROFESSIONALS (which she has known for years) and she previously claimed to be doing all this "to HELP me?" I had told her I don't ask my psychologists for money, that's what family is for...helping other family members in need when they are in their darkest hours especially...and that she could best help by helping me with my bills.
After about a month of relative calm, Mom went back to her old ways - in fact I get the distinct impression she approached it like a covert intelligence operation. I told her via "Boundaries" that I need help with bills the most from her and for myself my main "boundary" was that I need as much power and control over my own life as I can.
Hardly a lot to ask as I think each individual should have power and control over their own lives no matter what the circumstances are.
So, Mom "moved the goalposts" instead of "wanting my respect," she went on full-scale assault of my main boundary - "Community Service" - trying to wrestle as much power and control over me for HERSELF as she can.
It's just evil, insidious, and she couldn't be doing MORE harm if she tried I don't think. Her actions speak volumes.
The issue is PROVING all this stuff....
She did go Thursday to the pre-arranged weekly session I have with my Counselor, but that info would be confidential I would think so again, my biggest concern is how do I prove my accusation?
If necessary, and I don't want to but will if it will help, I could record a phone conversation with her but I need to know what sort of things she needs to say before the state takes any action.
Sorry this is so long but it is quite complicated as most such cases probably are....thank you!