Hi Coach Jen,
I am writing to you because I have screwed up royally with my wife. I have gotten into some legal trouble with my previous employer and may have potentially hurt our financial situation. My wife is really angry with me, and has hurt our already fragile trust we have had over the past few years. We have a three year old, and she has said in the past that she does not trust me alone with our son because I am irresponsible, do not pay attention and "zone out" when I am around our son. I admit that I have screwed up in the past. I left our son on our stairs and walked away. I did
it a number of times and I am very sorry. Luckily, he did not get hurt and I should have been paying attention.
Suffice to say, this latest incident with my former employer has caused even more distrust in our marriage. Can you please tell me how to make amends and get my marriage back on solid footing ?
I have suggested marriage counseling, but she wants nothing to do with it as she said that marriage counseling is B.S. and that it doesn't work.
I know I have hurt my wife, whom I love very much and I want to change and make amends. Unfortunately, she does not believe that I can change, which makes me feel down.
Can you please help ? Any suggestions would be appreciated.