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Dr. Z
Dr. Z, Psychologist
Category: Mental Health
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Experience:  Psy.D. in Clinical Forensic Psychology with a background in treating severe mental illnesses.
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Never been able to ever ask this question, I was gang raped

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Never been able to ever ask this question , I was gang raped at nine, Is it natural when you have sex that I keep my body special my legs so tight or I can't have an orgasm! If I try to relax I go somewhere else!
Submitted: 4 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr. Z replied 4 years ago.
DoctorZ :

Hello I believe I can help you with your question and concern.

DoctorZ :

I am sorry that you had to experience being gang raped when you were a child, I can understand that can have a profound effect on you

Customer: Hope this doesn't go on my account as a mental health issue?
DoctorZ :

The symptoms you are describing are common for a post traumatic stress disorder after a sexual assault like the one you experienced. When you say "you try to relax and go somewhere else" it is a form of dissociation to help you cope

DoctorZ :

What do you mean go on your account?

Customer: So everyone on the computer than see it at home
DoctorZ :

Oh okay, well after we are done and you rated my performance on this matter. I can ask the administrators to remove this chat from public record so no one else will see it.

DoctorZ :

Would that work for you?

Customer: Yes thank you
DoctorZ :

Okay, I will make sure to do that after we are done

DoctorZ :

Can I ask did ever go to therapy to discuss your these issues?

DoctorZ :

I think your symptoms are a natural result of the trauma that you went through

DoctorZ :

You may have some subconscious feelings that are making it difficult for you to enjoy sex because of your trauma. Therapy, like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or Exposure Therapy, can help you greatly with this.

DoctorZ :

This thought record is a tool that we use often in cognitive behavioral therapy that can identify possible negative thoughts that are often associated with past trauma, and transform that thinking to more positive thinking

DoctorZ :

Changing your possible negative thoughts can help you with these symptoms that you have been experiencing

DoctorZ :

One of the reasons why you said that you "keep your body special" is because you have a difficulty trusting another person in an intimate manner. In addition you may have negative emotions and thoughts because of the unresolved trauma that happened to you when you were a child

DoctorZ :

So I do think that what you are describing is understandable and not uncommon for the trauma that you went through. The good news is that it is completely treatable with therapy. I would be happy to recommend a therapist in your area that specializes in this area of expertise if you would like.

DoctorZ :

Here is a link that can provide you with some more information on PTSD

DoctorZ :

This link is from a psychologist I have worked with in the past and she provides good introductory information on adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse that I believe is very informative.

DoctorZ :

I believe you may be offline right now. But if you have any other questions or concerns, and feel like you would like to discuss these issues more, please feel free to contact me anytime and I will be sure to get back to as promptly as I can.

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