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It sounds like you've done some good work, making progress working towards overcoming your social anxiety.
Is this concern also part of your "anxiety" talking? Working so hard to make progress and movement into a relationship is major for you. I believe if the person does not "accept" that you've never been in a relationship- then it's the wrong person.
Starting out in a new relationship, no matter the age, is anxiety producing- to be expected.
Like most people it can take a few dates, a few relationships before we settle into one that works/fits for us.
Being realistic going into a new relationship, it's hard to predict what direction it will go. If a relationship doesn't work it does not necessarily mean it's because you haven't had the experience in relationships. Dating, relationships, it's a process.
I think it's definitely possible for one to tell someone they've had few relationships and they not run away. That special person you tell this to may feel even more special because you've chosen them.
I would imagine you have taken steps to venture out to practice those skills to manage the anxiety.
I would imagine getting into a relationship is the ultimate goal- and the work you've done will pay off. Being more social are just that- skills that we can learn if they do not come naturally- or if one is anxious.
This must be exciting to consider being in a committed relationship. There are many more people out there who are anxious socially, especially in new relationships, they just have a way of hiding it.
The thing with anxiety is that you can take the "anxiety" with you- manage it, take the lead, vs. the anxiety controlling you.
Have you met that special person?
Like any new skill it does take practice. When learning and practicing a new skill, sometimes we fall, but pick our self up and try try again. It's not unlike learning to play piano, or a new language- we do not just wake up "knowing" those things.
This is exciting to consider a relationship. It sounds like you are making that progress recognizing those opportunities are out there for you. That special person is out there, trust and have faith.
If there is anything else you'd like to add please do, so I can provide with the information you are looking for. I look forward to any other comments or questions you may have. It would be great to hear more about your experience as you venture out more socially. Thank you for your post!