An 18 yr old girl who says she has a long history of alcohol abuse
, cutting, suicide, etc. was interested in our son. He is 18 and has some generalized anxiety
. He was not interested in a relationship and this year both started university, he in another city. She broke up with a boyfriend in the fall and initiated an intense Facebook relationship with our son, telling him nightly about her cutting, panic
attacks, eating disorders, suicidal thoughts, etc. She is now saying she has PTSD, and suggests it’s due to past sexual abuse, and wants to tell our son about this.
Question: She says she has been in therapy (including some institutionalization) for years but refuses to talk to help lines or crisis lines when these things occur, saying this “triggers her”.
We think this refusal to seek appropriate help is wrong, and somewhat suspicious, and that in any case, our son is not competent to deal with her problems. We also find it odd that her therapist would not have addressed the problem of her being unable to call a help line.
Are we right, and what should we do?