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Anytime you feel you have little to no control over your own behavior, it can be distressing. On the one hand you want to stop, but on the other you derive pleasure from what you are doing and stopping seems like an overwhelming concept. But there are ways you can address your addiction.
The steps to dealing with sex addiction include:
One, realizing that you have a problem. With any addiction, breaking through denial is the first step to overcoming addiction. And this is true for sex addiction as well. Sex is part of life and very integrated in society so realizing that it has become a problem can be difficult. But if your addiction is interrupting your relationships, making you ignore responsibilities or even affecting your health, it has become a problem. Seeing those signs and realizing that you need help is an important step.
Two, getting support. You cannot do this alone. Trying alone is an option, but without support, it is easy to fail. Therapy is a great place to start. Talking to a therapist can help you see why you have this addiction and ways you can alter your behavior. Insight is also important. Once you know that you have a problem and what to do, it is hard to go back to ignoring the problem. Also, include friends, family or a sponsor in helping you stop. Make yourself accountable to them. If you have someone asking you about your problem, then it is harder to deceive yourself or lie about it to avoid facing your problem.
Three, changing your behavior. It is important to recognize all the ways that sex addiction has affected how you behave with others and with yourself. Find out what your triggers are. Do you feel lonely and that is why you have sex? Are you using the sex to cope with your feelings? Low self esteem, depression, anxiety
and other issues can drive your need to avoid life and keep returning to sex to answer how you feel. In order to cope with these behaviors, along with getting help, try writing out how you feel when you want to have sex. Link the feelings with the need and find new ways to address how you feel. Find new things to do and ways to distract yourself. List some activities you are willing to do instead. Challenge yourself and go outside of your comfort zone. Have friends and family call talk with you. Anything you feel would work to distract you.
Seek help on line and in person. Here are some resource to help:
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