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Experience:  35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
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Iam 47 and have always wanted to be female davanna but keep

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hi iam david 47 and have always wanted to be female davanna but keep on hiding my true self i need help as i cant keep living like this
Submitted: 4 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Elliott, LPCC, NCC replied 4 years ago.
Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Seeking expert counseling is a sign of strength. A personal relationship with a caring professional is proven clinically effective.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Dear *****/Dananna,

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

After 47 years I believe you know who you are and what you need in your life;.

Customer:

hi elliott

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

What are you thinking about doing to move ahead with this as it seems that staying as David is not enough?

Customer:

yes you are right i need to be me

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Are you thinking about getting any hormones or doing any other procedures? I suggest one step at a time of course, to see how you like your new public persona.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Your doctor is well-intentioned but just does not understand.

Customer:

yes i have been on hormones for 3 years

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Are you out in public?

Customer:

no

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Are you acquiring an appropriate wardrobe?

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Are you in a relationship?

Customer:

yes i have everything bras wigs corsets dresses and yes she knows about me

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

She meaning your wife or significant other?

Customer:

yes

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

And how does she feel about this? How has it affected your relationship? It has been three years now?

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Since the treatments started.

Customer:

she sees me as her sister now as i do not have sex as i am impotent now

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

From the hormones.

Customer:

yes

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Do you both want to stay in the relationship?

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Are there children?

Customer:

no

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

no to both?

Customer:

yes

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

What do you want to accomplish in 2013 toward remaking yourself?

Customer:

find a good doctor and get on with life as davanna

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Will you get full surgery?

Customer:

if i can yes i would love to

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

What is your impediment?

Customer:

me and my job

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Tell me about the "me" part first.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Or were they meant to go together?

Customer:

me as in finding to will to be who i should be davanna and finding someone who under stands me as me as i have stopped myself so many times from getting proper help

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Are you in a support group of any kind?

Customer:

no

Customer:

i need to find one

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

AIS Support Group Australia - Australia based. Includes meeting, contact and legal information, a newsletter, and information on genetics, hormone therapy, fertility and presentation.

Customer:

ok thanks

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

http://www.changelingaspects.com/LinksPages/Support%20Groups.htm

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

http://www.ausgender.com/

Customer:

thank you

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

and a Christian support group as well

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

http://www.ministryblue.com/gay.html

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Did you really mean to rate me bad service for all of the information that I have given you? The last site I gave you was not for gay people but for all gender issues. I have worked for nearly an hour on my time and I believe that your rating was either accidental or very inappropriate for the value I have given youl

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

I will nevertheless keep you in my prayers and hope that you do well with your life.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

You still have the option of giving me positive feedback.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Thank you so much.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Warm regards. I will leave the chat open. Elliott