I am really in a quandary! I am experiencing an enormous amount of grief right now and I believe that because of this incident I am falling into a deep depression because of all that has happened between my doctor and I. He asked me 2 questions which I know are totally unprofessional and unethical. One question was, "Would you ever have an affair?" Asked b/c of my talk about my husband (but we weren't talking about that at the time!) Then right after that question he asks me, "If a man that you did
not know were to walk up to you and ask you if you would go to a hotel to have sex with him, would you???" I immediately answered "No!" Everybody asked me why I didn't just say something at that time but I guess I was so confused by it all?? I'm not sure. But when I got home I thought about it and I thought, WHAT THE *&*& was that all about? I then got on the phone to make another appointment with him to ask him in person why he asked those questions. I was and am very very offended by those questions. When I went back to ask him about why he had asked me those questions he had a perfect poker face.....no expression at all except for a friendly affect. He claimed he couldn't remember why he asked me the second question, he , "could not recall in what context it was used." He was so confused, even putting his head on his desk and mumbling, "what was the context of the question???? hmmmm."........b.s. I read right through that one (bad acting on his part) I am extremely depressed b/c we have been seeing each other for 3 years and have always had a great rapport. I just looked up to him so much and really considered him to be a faithful, loyal, and true man that was seriously concerned about my well-being. Since that he has been a totally different person and not very nice. He has done subtle things that I know are directed towards me and he has even given up on trying to get me on the right track , which was what we had been in the process of before and during this event. My last visit 2 days ago I got the impression that he is putting words into my mouth (too long to write) and has given up and just put me on lithium just to be done with it. He has never agreed to put me on lithium in the past b/c he knows I have an issue with my weight and we agreed on that one. When he told me he was going to put me on lithium, I said, "I'm going to gain weight" He said, "no, not everybody gains weight on it." I said, "I will, I gain weight on all meds that cause you to gain weight." Then he said, "Well, Patti, if you're not going to follow my treatment plan then....." I said, "What? I will have to find a new doctor??" He said, "Well, Patti, you're in control of all of this, you are the one who is in control." In the past I had asked him 2 separate times if I would have to get another dr. and he immediately said, "No, no". At the end of the visit he flung the paper onto his receptionists desk, she handed it to me to sign, he was bending down at a desk, I said goodbye, she said goodbye and he never said a thing. First time he had never said goodbye to me with a big smile on his face. I have done some research and he has been accused of just letting clients go by treating them badly and not putting any effort into trying to help them with their meds so that they are basically pushed out of the office in order to get the help they need. I at least wanted to stay until I could get over and deal with my feelings of rejection. It's only become monumental now. I am so angry with him but will also miss him so much. I am truly mourning the loss of (what I thought) was a dear friend. Thank you in advance for your time and effort to help me.