No, haven't considered a domestic violence group. I would guess that the abuse I receive pales in comparison to the people that receive worse and probably on a daily bases.
I have had counseling by a professional but my husband did not want me to pay for it any more out of our joint account. He said I had to use my own savings. I'll probably contact her again.
My husband and I are professionals, educated, white picket fence with one dog. Live in a nice neighborhood. My husband is a salesman and can turn on the charm to make you think he's a great guy.
When we seperated he and his lawyer managed to convince the judge that our kids (19 mo and 3yrs at the time) should stay with him every weekend for Thur -Sun, 72 hours in a row!! My children had never spent more than a few hours at a time without me since birth so the transition was horrible. My husband refused to revise the temporary agreement even though he could see the affect it had on our children especially my 19 mo old who would cry so hard he would throw up when Daddy put him in his car.
He also lost his high paying job during this time and ended up taking me back to the court to pay reduced support. The judge granted a 60 reduction in support payment based on his reduced pay. The judge did not even consider the very large amounts of money he has in his seperate accounts, wich is not considered 'income'. So, now we have very little money in our joint account, thus I have very little money to pay for expensive attorney's etc.
I've done some research on the drug use pertaining to custody and most of it pertains to people who have addictions.
Not sure if you can offer any other advise. It's bad if I stay and bad if I leave (he's granted 50 custody).
I try to keep a journal of things that occur I found out that it would only be used if the case went to trial. We spent $75,000 on the attor. fees before it ever went to trial. I'm out of money. Out of ideas. I'm going back to school to get a masters but it will take several years because I take care of kids all day.