hi steve. my parents just walked out the door. and i ran 2 talk to my therapist.
sounds about right huh?
they came late - 1pm actually. it was good in the sense i had more time, but i just kept running thinking ok let me put that away (my drivers record with the suspension listed on it..) to let me load the dishwasher n putr stuff away, to let me pick up this box or toy. and i threw out wait for it. 6 bqgs of garbage.
and its still a hellhole.
i scrubbed the bathroom, got us dressed and moved all the clothes were trying to sell on ebay. plus her new stuff that has no home since rob is fixing the kids room closet t be a double rack so i can have room for the kids. and all their crap.
anyway, so they came and kate was dressed and i was beat from the cleaning. they brought cake, and i said ok, well what wud u like for lunch b/c i hadnt gotten any cold cuts or anything.
they said ok ok lets wait awhile. about 15 min later theure like ok i can eat..(ok..) so its whos going? what are we getting? so its only my dad and i.. then its all of us.. so we all pile inot my minivan - my dad wantedto use his car, but i said i cant switch the carseat.. so then he said oh ok if were all going...
were going to pull away and theyre like can we sit down at that store? so i said no its an italian market.. theres food but no seating. do supermarkets have seating? wtf?
so i put it back inot park and im like ok what do u want to do? so my moms like lets go soemwhere so u guys get out of the house. mind u despite kate being sick we went to the drs 3 days in a row. 2 days at the hosp for 4 hrs each plus a drs visit for the ob.
i think im serious about this - that my mother didnt wnat to stay at my messy house and was like lets eat out.
so shes like lets got ot mc donalds.. the closest mc donalds is n a crappier neighborhood and i didnt want them 2 see that. so i took them further into the neighborhood thats nicer. so we go and that mc donalds has no playplace. which i was kind of happy with b/c shes already sick.
so we got on the highway a few miles n were there in 10 min. so theyre like its o far? so i said its not far really i just choose to take the hwy b/c avoid all the traffic n theres never traffic here were on the outskirt of the neighborhood and we drove rite thru...
we sit n its too hot for my dad - it was actually too hot for me but i try to keep my mouth shut as much as possible. my moms force feeding kate chicken nuggets. she takes away her french fries and kate turns sees mine n says i take one mommy? pls?
so i said yes but lets eat chicken nuggets. then my mom drops the word ice cream.. so now kates stuck on one channel. ice cream.
then kate finally gets one n she says (as she always does) its too cold. so my moms like put the chocolate on it. so im trying to just not do it and my pushy mother takes it n now is force feeding ice cream. im actually worried kate will throw up n im like mom she already ate too much. she doesnt normally eat 3 nuggets.
kate ends all of this and says i want to go home. (she has more f**king sense than the rest of us)
my dad very sensitive to kates needs - says lets go. i pick up the 3 trays (thats right i mustve been a waitress in another lifetime) ad start cleaning up.
we get out of there n im like u want to go to the italian market just to see? no thats ok...
we get home and we go outside. kates playing with my dad on the layset and my mother is actually inside the playhouse sitting on the chair. yes shes that skinny of a bitch.
kate lasts a while but finally freaks n says i need to go inside. shes tearful n im trying to figure out what changed her from ok to not ok..
i get her settled n my parents r here n the phone rings i answer it n its a political thing so i hang up.
i say that, n my mom looks doubtful.
the phone rings again n i think it maybe bank of america.. i paid but owe them late fee..
so i just pick up n hang up. and say oh political call again. my mother made a face but said nothing n my dad said nothing.
my dad says what r u guys going to do? blow out upstaits and make the houe bigger? etc..
i said well id like to move n tell them why - n theyre like u can live next to assholes anywhere which is totally true. but i want to sty ahead of the fray. he thinks since we did so much to the house we shud stay.
so all in all not the worst visit although, my mother didnt pick up one thing. she didnt lift one finger which.. i dont know. i feel like she cudve said like ill help u...
i mean i didnt want to spend the time cleaning as i had cleaned for 3 hrs b4 they came
ugh i hope we can move. i got the feeling he was trying to say we wont be able to sell the house for enuff n well be underwater...
i just called my mom to see if she got home ok, and we actually had a nice conversaion. she said i looked good and that it smed like i felt good and the most important thing is that i take care of kate and me..
i said i do feel better now than i had been and she said well thats good. i laughed that she said i looked good (i need my hi lights done really bad- i cancelled this week due to kate being sick and i couldnt get my eye brows waxed..)
she told me how shes sick of laundry and i said join the freaking club. and i said i really wanted bigger washer dryer set and they had coem out with a bigger set.. id like to sell my medium size set amd hget the new ones but these are pretty new.. and she said so do it if u want...
as far as ruling out a lab contaminate... how wud kate get klebsiella? i work around it and i havent picked it up. utis are usually ecoli and if they are klebsiella - its usually a nsg home pt or a cancer pt... it doesnt make sense. shes asymptomatic b/c i asked her if it hurt when she urinated and she said no, but i felt like i had to check due to the fever of unknown origin at the time. the croup explained the fever and i felt comfortable not treating her. but between dr b and the other er dr.. them saying it shud be treated due to her age and the chance were taking - i did it as if she got sicker b/c of it and it was my fault - well i couldnt live with it. if it was me, it my own decision.
your mom. ok well lets be honest. how wud u feel if jack came along and was like hey dad, i got u a woman to make sure u wipe ur ass?
just saying. it is a way to show u care for your mom. of course. but she may want u and the kids and kate. and not an outside person. thats the other thing. so its hard for me to tell her motive, but usually its the kids dont call me enuff i hear and the kids think ima moron and im not a moron.
ugh the payback for rob... uh his son? that i get to bear and ruin myself again for? i gave him this beautiful wonderful daughter.
i mean i cant wait to wear clothes an be a person again. lose weight and feel better. ive already started cutting back on the food intake to try to curb any further weight gain...
rob will get sex. not to worry. pls.
and if he doesnt, well he still get shis kids and me. what more do u want? i told him already he needws me as a money maker and a baby maker and its going to be one or the other now. not both. im too old for this shit.
oh works not going to bang me til i come back. peter will call me to the office. either he will stop by and say i need to see u.. and he does it in front of other nurses.. hes done it to other people too. and the time he called me for the thing i didnt do with the documentation he said in front of people.
anyway my dad. yeah hes a pisser. and a ball buster. big time.
i hope i didnt tell u this story but if i did forgive me and skip ahead. a guy got banged for driving the truck drunk. like 20 yrs ago. anyway he hit a car and hurt people. no one dead thank god.
so they want to fire the guy (im kind of all for this..) my dad talks it down to a suspension. they need to do the meeting and my dad tried not have meeting with the guy cuz the guy can get upset or whatever and then say soemthing and ruin the plan. anyway my dad talks them down to no suspension - but the guy was supposed to be at work the day theyre having the meeting. so my dad says well take today as a one day suspension and gets out of there quickly. the mgmt guys didnt realize what they had done. my dad tricked them and the guy was pissed. ill explain. if the company didnt discipline the guy at all- if anything else happened- like the people sued the company and won, the co could turn around and fire the guy (again) but my dad getting him a 1 day suspension means he was disciplined. once discipline is done its over. you cannot be disciplined again for the same issue.
the guy thought my dad was stupid and started arguing wiht him at the table. so my dad got them out of there and was like shut the f**k up. either way the guy had a 1 day suspension for a huge offense and saved his job from any further possible issues. he explained, but people think theyll just walk away. you and i know you dont walk away from things like that in life.
another ball busting moment. my dad would schedule meetings and mgtmt wud be mad that they were during my dads work day. youre supposed to do union biz on the clock. anyway so my dad said fine well do it after my shift. so hed make them for 430pm friday. so these mgtmt guys wud want to be scooting out early to hit the tunnel or get back to jersey early before traffic - my dad is in queens so hed keep the mgmt guy late, then say can i make a call/ call my mom and say ok patti put on the spaghetti ill be there in 15 min. and it would burn them that they had 2 hrs of traffic ahead of them and my dad was scooting home..
i knew that jen was a freaking manic pt... did i guess right?
oh and dr ditz didnt deliver me. she did my repair of my torn episiotomy. i was delivered by a male dr who looked like he was a player from the 70s. dress shirt without the tie.. older..
he cudve delivered me. want to hear weird? my mom was delivered by the same dr i was. so he saw all 3 of our.. vaginas. yep.
grandma mom and me... plus my aunts delivered all their kids with him.. so all my cousins too. yikes.
ps - ever hear the saying that if men had children abortion would be a sacrament in the catholic church?