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i just found out that my fiance cheated on me two years ago

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i just found out that my fiance cheated on me two years ago with her ex boyfriend; after the act she broke up with me. About a week or so later we got back together, though I did not know what exactly had transpired. Apparently she thouht that they were going to get back together and get married. About two years after that, we were engaged. Just the other day I found out she likely had another fling with another guy about two months after that. She says that nothing happened, but the texts messages suggest that they had some sort of romantic evening together at his place. I found out about both of these actions within the past week. What should I do?

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or cofidential but public).

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

I am sorry to know about this concerning situation.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Most people in your shoes would feel overwhelmed by finding out there was not real honesty but betrayal while in relationships, even more with two different people in such a short period of time.


Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Affairs happen but make of them truly destructive and lead to hopeless scenarios is the partner's choice to keep dishonesty, and not taking real responsibility for her own actions, and when that's the case, to keep trusting would nto be a good idea but very naive and self-sabotaging.



Thank you - what can I do to rebuild my trust in her?

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

There would only be hope if you still happen to feel like you can and want to work on healing the relationship and if she chooses to start being totally honest and accountable in the relationship. It's obvious she has personal issues leading to the problems in the relationship, issues she needs to address, ideally with counseling support,`since this is not about an isolated episode which led to mature positive change, but she continues to show the very core issues of lack of honesty, respect and responsibility, essential for any relations

hip to develop as a healthy and fulfilling one.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Trust should be deserved and built through consistent actions based on respect, honesty and commitment, to trust without those concrete requirements would lead to self-sabotage so to further infidelity.


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