Thanks for the reply, really appreciate your efforts..
Well, now i will like to answer your question.
You had mentioned that your wife is 45 yrs of age and this kind of denial/lack of sexual intimacy has been going on for sometime now while she was quite active sexually throughout the first 4 yrs of life.
You see i had mentioned earlier about whether she has reached menopause , the reason i asked this was because in women age between 40-50 yrs is called as menopausal age meaning that they reach menopause during this range of age , some of them reach it in early 40's while others reach it in late 40's , even 50 in some rare cases.
So why this is important for your wife , it is because she is in this menopausal age range although yet to reach menopause, but is very much in the Pre- menopausal period which is known to produce fluctuations and imbalances in the female sex hormones like estrogen and progesterone ( these hormones are on the decline with an impending complete absence of their production and deficiency ) leading to mood swings , decreased libido ( i.e decreased sex drive ) , emotional incontinenence and vulnerability leading to incessant crying spells without any reason or brooding over past emotional issues and revisting and ruminating past emotional trauma ( which explains why she has now started stating that she has been molested by her father, memory which had not visited her for so long a period), anxiety and irritability, also there are some physcial symptoms like non-specific bodily pain all over the body, joint pain, pain during sexual activitiy due to lack of lubrication of vagina owing to deficiency of female sex hormones during this phase ,all of these symptoms occurring in the perimenopausal / pre-menopausal period / age of a woman are collectively called as Peri-menopausal syndrome ( PMS ).
So your wife is resisting sex , not because of lack of attraction towards you or anything else , but the most plausible reason for this is something which is a normal physiological phenomenon that occurs naturally in all women of this age group called as Peri-menopausal syndrome ( PMS).
Now the solution is to consult your family doctor or preferrably a gynaecologist and get her this diagnosis of PMS confirmed by getting serum levels of estrogen and progesterone checked via blood tests and through a proper history and physical examination by the expert and once this diagnosis is confirmed then the doctor would like to start her on HRT that is Hormone replacement therapy ( in which hornonal supplements are given ) , which will allay all of her symptoms and also bring her libido back on track and redifine your sexual life and make it to suit your expectations and satisfaction.
Meanwhile you get her consulted with the above mentioned specialist to get her diagnosis confrmed and get started her on HRT , as of now you can get her started on some natural remedies which boost libido in women such as Lyriana or Her solution + Ginkgo biloba + ginseng. These 3 are natural remedies which you may get from a pharmacy near you and start her on them while you seek consultation and continue on them along with HRT also. These natural remedies will start improving her sex life while HRT comes into play.
I hope this helps..
Wish you all the best..
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