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I'm feeling so fed up at the moment, i am a married mum of

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i'm feeling so fed up at the moment, i am a married mum of two (age 6&8). i seem to get angry at everything, and often think it would be easier if i wasnt here. not in a suicide way but would it be easier to move away from everything and start again on my own. i have thought about going to see a doctor but i feel i might be wasting there time. i dont enjoy anything in my life apart from my children. i only eat because i no i have to but i dont enjoy food anymore either. i have felt this way for at least the past 4 months and i dont seem to be able to snap out of it. please let me know if this is normal or if i should go and seek medical advise. thank you in advance.
Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.

It sounds like you might be depressed. The symptoms you describe- loss of appetite, loss of enjoyment in your life (except for your children) and feeling suicidal are all common depression symptoms.

Depression can also include feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness, lack of energy or motivation and trouble concentrating. It is common to feel there is no hope and no way out.

If you have not tried therapy, you might want to at this point. Therapy is often one of the best ways to feel better. Medications are helpful to deal with the symptoms of depression but they do not get rid of them permanently. Therapy can do that for you. To have a better chance at finding a good therapist, ask your doctor for a referral. Or you can search on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/ and http://www.bacp.co.uk/.

Medications are helpful to ease the symptoms but the vary in their effectiveness. Each person has their own body chemistry and what works for one may not work for another. Also, once you take medication for a while, your body becomes accustomed to it and you either need an increase in dosage or you need to try a new medication. Talk with your doctor about what medication might work for you. You can take it to alleviate the symptoms and until therapy begins to help.

Motivation is a very difficult symptom of depression. It often keeps people from helping themselves and reaching out to others. But support and self help are vital in helping you overcome depression. Consider support groups, either on line or in person. People who are experiencing the same symptoms as you are can offer invaluable support, ideas and companionship to help you feel better. Also, working on your depression at home can supplement your therapy or other treatment. Here are resources to help you get started:

http://psychcentral.com/resources/Depression/Support_Groups/

http://depression.supportgroups.com/

http://helpguide.org/mental/depression_signs_types_diagnosis_treatment.htm

Once you are able to reach out, you will start to feel better. Let others support you and offer help. You need it right now. And you do not have to do this alone.

I hope this has helped you,
Kate
Customer: replied 4 years ago.

kate,

thank you for your advice. i think i just needed clarification that its ok to go to the doctors about this and that i wouldnt be wasting their time. thank you for your help.

No, you definitely would not be wasting the doctors time with this. They see people with depression all the time. And they have a number of medications they can prescribe for you to help.

Kate

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