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This goes back to our earlier discussion a while back. It seems that his insecurities come out during these times and he needs to be right and cant protect you in those moments. I think it has less to do with whether he loves you and more about his own lack of self esteem
Sometimes, it has nothing to do with him though. For example when I'm bummed about something work related. It's like he looks for reasons not to side with me
because he isnt and hasnt been supportive of you....on any level.
when you ask him why how does he respond?
when I ask about his opinion you mean?
no when you ask him why he isnt supportive or wont take your side.
he says "it's not that I'm not taking your side, I just need to see the whole picture so that I can give you an honest opinion"
and when he says that do you say, I am not asking you for your opinion or the big picture, I am just asking for you to support and acknowledge my experience.
sometimes I've said that. He just says that he has to think about it. I just wish he could support me without having to evaluate the situation
I agree and that is what you
but somehow even in these situations he needs to take the lead and give you the big picture or his opinion rather than just listening and supporting so again it comes down to his inabilities but I dont see it as him not loving you and more of his personality style.
and for the things that you need support on sadly you might need to look toward a friend to be your sounding board and source of support rather than him...knowing you wont get what you need from him.