17 years, 11 married. he works so hard. we have a 16 year old. but unhappy. i am a huggy person, very affectionate. he is very stoic. not ever asking me to go out or do anything. i am 41, he is 37. his parents were teens when he was born. he never talks about anything, but in 17 yearsw i was able to surmise that they did
things wrong. i only know bc i heard that his younger siblings, brother and sister talked about it. it was the only thing he divulged. he said that one time his sister asked their mom for a hug, and she said, "get away from me before i hit you." i know they are not like that now, but the family is very detached in many ways. his father is bipolar
and his mom is as well, but willn't treatment. i am sad
that this has been put on me. or maybe i feel like it has. maybe it is me. i would like affection of any kind. i have been ready to leave since the first year, but, i love him, and i feel like i dont want to be another statistic in the world of divorces. is there any way of getting him to open up and just love. he has never said he loves justin. but, justin is so loves, and huggy like me, that i instilled that in him. i wish i knew what was going on in his head. i googled it and found the narcissistic thing, and that fits him to a tee! but he doesnt want to hear what i say. i know he needs a good cry, and def counseling. i am up for it, but if i go, it will help me, and he wont get the closure he needs. i do love him, but i am ready to walk. please help! Thank you in advance.