How JustAnswer Works:
  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.
Ask Suzanne Your Own Question
Suzanne
Suzanne, Mental Health Professional
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 919
Experience:  LCSW, RN. Mental Health, Relationship & Parenting issues.EMDR, Hypnosis.
32195369
Type Your Mental Health Question Here...
Suzanne is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

ASK SUZANNE, This morning, i took a shower, fed the baby,

Resolved Question:

ASK SUZANNE, This morning, i took a shower, fed the baby, changed the baby, drove to work etc. The baby was a little more needy today than usual. It is mornings like this i feel stressed and crazy before I even get to work. I think I take having a baby for granted. I never saw having a child as an accomplishment or something to be proud of. Maybe if I could see having a baby as something to be proud and happy about, i would feel better about having a baby. Can you help me with this? Thanks, Jen
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Suzanne replied 5 years ago.

Hi Jen,

First of all, know that every working mother of a young baby goes through mornings like that...for many of them, every morning is like the one you had today.

As for being proud of having a baby...I have a slightly different way of thinking about this. It doesn't take any special skill or talent to give birth to a child. So you're right...simply having a child may not give a person a feeling of pride. Where the pride comes in is in your own work and ability in taking good care of the baby. The fact that you only sometimes have mornings like this is a testament to your ability to be organized, keep to a routine, and mother your baby well enough that he knows he will be taken care of.

Once he gets older, and starts walking, talking, etc., you'll begin to feel pride in his accomplishments. Until then, take pride in the fact that you are the main breadwinner for the family, hold down a responsible job, already have your figure back, AND you give your baby the very best care possible. That's a lot to be proud of!

Suzanne and other Mental Health Specialists are ready to help you