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How to end affair when u r in love and u r both married

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how to end affair when u r in love and u r both married
ReneeLPC :

hello!

ReneeLPC :

I need some more information

ReneeLPC :

Why do you want to end the affair?

ReneeLPC :

How did the affair begin in the first place?

Customer:

we played in a band together 20 yrs ago got awaynfrom eachother for as

ReneeLPC :

k

Customer:

our beliefs we r both married trying to do the rightnthing, i love him but this is tearing us both up.

ReneeLPC :

why end the affair and not the marriages?

Customer:

i would but he says he feels so guilty, it has been twenty yrs of emotional with out sexual also, has not just been about sex,

Customer:

do these things ever work, he has always been here for me. so do i cut all ties lasted a year, i feel sick in side. empty

ReneeLPC :

they work if both parties are on board

ReneeLPC :

but it sounds like you are both riddled with guilt

ReneeLPC :

i think the bigger question is why did you go out of your marriage?

Customer:

i had only been married two month bfore i met him. my husband forced marriage he knew i had no where to go and to girls, and no where to go.

Customer:

it was stupid i changed date 4 times.

Customer:

is this man in affair using me or does he really carew

ReneeLPC :

i dont know

ReneeLPC :

do you feel used?

Customer:

.i am now over wieght not like i was when i met him 20 years ago. he says doesnt matter i am still beautiful, i am confused

ReneeLPC :

so you feel loved?

ReneeLPC :

do you not feel loved in your marriage?

Customer:

my husband loves me very much it is me. i dont love back

ReneeLPC :

have you considered individual therapy?

Customer:

been there, i cant get this guy off my mind. o well he we go again. thank you

ReneeLPC :

have i answered your question?

Customer:

how do i end it

ReneeLPC :

hit "accept"

ReneeLPC :

thank you! :-)

ReneeLPC :

and if you have any questions in the future please feel free to contact me!

ReneeLPC :

thank you!

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