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thank you for your question. Before providing recommendations, I have a few questions for you. Please tell me more about your relationship with your wife. Why do you suspect her of cheating? How long have you noticed any difficulties in your marriage?
the last7 months or so
Anything else...such as spending less time with each other?
What makes you think she is cheating on you?
shes going out more
as in spending time with friends?
when intimate she wants to do it a differnt way and feels looser inside
Have you confront her on your suspicions?
yes friends or w co workers...happy hour..
yes and she denies
what are you unhappy about in your marriage?
other than sex.
less attentave blowing me off more mad..
have you considered going to a couples therapist?
yes but she doesnt want to
Do you feel your wife is happy?
oh shes happy
why do you think your wife does not want to see a couples therapist?
she says there is no troubles
but you feel there is...correct?
what does she say to you when she goes and spend time with her friends, but you don't want her too
my friend said the new underwear is a huge sign
sometimes she says shes workimg late
yes, as you know people do work late
gigling on the phone in the bedroom?
talks about him at home
who is the other guy?
hes older and she likes older men
I see. do you think she is having an emotional affair with her coworker?
she called me once and had 2 drive him home cause he was drunk
i think shes doin something
Any other evidence of her doing more than just having an emotional connection with the coworker
well the underwear and lingerie..not wearing 4 me and i do the laundry mostly
have you talked to her about this coworker? If so what did she say?
she gets mad
What does she say?
sticks up 4 him
how does she stick up for him
isk why she talks about him and i dont talk 2 her about my co workers
i don't understand
lots of ways
give me one example
shes done a one eighty in 6 months
what do you mean?
not me or kids..its work and gary this gary that working late i dont know
Ok, my suggestion for you is to have a frank discussion with your wife regarding your uncomfortable feelings you are experiencing whenever she talks about her co-worker. Although she feels that there are no issues in the marriage, you feel that there are and that you would like her to join you in couples therapy.
If she does not join you, I suggest for your to find a couples therapist anyway and attend by yourself
swore i heard her moaning on the phone one sat and she was shocked 2 see me.. thouht i was outside w kids
myself? what good is that
why go by myself?
If you go by yourself, you can obtain more suggestions on how to handle your marriage.
there may be a past experience you had that your current situation with your wife is reminding you of
you wife may not be acutally cheating, but you still mistrust her
going by yourself will help you either find out more information of wheather your wife is cheating or if this is just plain coincidence
well its not lookin good i know that
I'm sorry to hear that.
Do you have any other questions?
no thank u
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not really but thanx 4 your time..
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