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Thank you for your question. Before providing suggestions, I have a few questions. First, what kind of fear does your grandson experience? Is it anxiety during a real game? Has he had any other performance anxiety in the past?
he is afraid he won't do well
I see... a suggestion I have is for your grandson to use a technique called visualization. To do this, have him imagine being in a ball game and have him visualize what he is going to do...for example, if he is batting, have him visualize the ball and how hard he is going to hit it.
The more exposure he has in a real game, the less the fear will be.
outside of practice on his freshman team, he can join a community league as well
Another suggestion is for your grandson to have a "routine." An example of this routine is to watch MLB baseball players when they go up to bat. Normar Garciapara had this routine of adjusting his wrist guard, tapping his hand, etc before the pitch. This routine is a calming routine (although some say it is OCD or superstition)...it's a calming technique to focus on the ball before hitting.
he has been in little league since he was 6 - plays all the time - the above will not help
if he played for little league since he was 6, what is it about being on the JV team that is different? Is he being teased on the team?
Does he feel he needs to prove to everyone?
hello? are you still there?
Why do you think the above will not help? Have you had him try it?
If so what were the results?
sorry , children calling to wish me a Happy Easter - this has been going on the the last 2 years - before that he was fine - now for some reason he feels pressure
not being teased or anything and yes the above have been tried
Has there been significant changes that occur two years ago?
just becoming a teenager - he is now 15 - great at football also - but then you have drills to follow
unlike baseball...so does he perform well in his freshman team?
very - first stri;ng wide receiver
Does he prefer football than baseball?
no - he likes both - whichever is in season
And is he performing well in baseball (on the freshman team?)?
in practice not during the game
what types of errors does he make during the game?
his pitching is ver irratic and so is he hitting - last year his hitting was good - but again in prcatice he is fine
hitting in practice is a bit different than in games. He is hard on himself during and after the game?
What types of things does he do to calm his nerves during the game?
he is during the game I don't know
so after the game he moves past this?
what he does to try to calm down
it seems so but I don't go home with him and he doesn't want to talk about it
ok, and his coach...is he hard on him as well?
well - he was moved back to freshman team
Here are some tips from sports psychology theory...first, he needs to find a way to calm his nerves during the game
This can be done through visualization technique I mentioned early or through deep breathing
yes and then what
this is common sense
Here are more tips:
If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts or negative self-talk, stop and focus only on your breathing. Focusing on your breathing rhythm will automatically pull you back into the present.
this information is good - but he is a teenage boy -
Yes, I understand. He does not have to use all of these tips. These tips are just a guide for him to use.
especially if he is hard on himself
how do you get him to do this
you can practice with him or have his coach be informed about these tips.
so that the coach can work with your son
the coach is a coach - wants the team to do well - does not have time for individual people
I see, will you or his parents be able to work on these tips with him?
I don't know - he is at school and then practice or a game - never home before 7:30
What is stopping you from giving him these tips?
nothing - if he will listen to me but that does not mean he will use them
Yes, but that is the first step. SInce he is 15, he can make the decision whether or not he would like to use the tips. Has he asked you for help? Or was this question based out of your own concerns for him?
I see...I would simply ask your grandson how he feels about his baseball performance. See what he says. If he discuss with you that he isn't sure why this is happening to him, you can give him the tips we have discussed here.
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Do you have any further questions?
I do not feel I was given great advise
Why do you feel this way?
You mentioned that the tips I gave early could be helpful.