I connect emotionally with her more than I do my husband. In general, I think women understand other women better, and there is a relating about similar experiences that I never shared with a man. Not the my husband can't be nice and try to understand. He just doesn't RELATE. So there is a connection there with my friend that is certainly deep and emotionally intimate. My friend is single, and alone right now, and perhaps because of her neediness together with my feeling emotionally connected, it is getting too far.
It hasn't threatened the marriage, and I am not even sure it will. I met this friend in the supermarket and she told me she had a really bad day at work, etc, and I gave her a long hug. Another friend saw this (friend "B") and basically told me that it is SO completely inappropriate. And so I started questioning it.
I know there are no real "rules" (and I'm an athiest, so, I don't believe in god-rules, even while I believe in ethics and morals). And it could be that my husband wont mind at all. I really have no idea. I can't imagine him feeling threatened by a female friend. But if he were, it would certainly bother me because I really don't think there is anything wrong with any of it, even if "Friend B" thinks differently.
I guess I'm just wanting a second opinion on this whole issue.