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what can we as grandparents do for our grandson who is 14 almost

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what can we as grandparents do for our grandson who is 14 almost 15 and refuses to go to school. He was a straight A student the first part of last year. He is in the 9th grade & is failing. What can we do?

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I mean as grandparents, where he lives, what can we do to help motivate him to go to school.

David Akiva, BA, MA,
Category: Mental Health
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Experience: Counselor; Behavioral Consultant
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Thank you for choosing JustAnswer! Your son has hit puberty and his world has become an adolescent rebellion. The fact that he went from straight A's to wanting to ditch school is a strong "cry for help" on his part and requires someone to step up to the plate and set some limits with him.You need to coordinate things closely with his parents since they are the people he is focusing his rebellion on. Teenage rebellion has a social aspect to it in that the teen will turn on his parents, challenging their authority and asserting himself more and more until someone has the courage to say stop and mean it. At the same time the teen will attempt to ally with the grandparents, superficially appealing to their good nature while attempting to exploit them for all they are worth and create a rift between them and the teen's parents. Your grandson will continue to spiral out of control until someone steps in decisively. I would start talking to his parents and working with them on setting some good limits on his behaviors.

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If there is anything else I can help you with about your grandson let me know. If you are his primary caretaker I have some more suggestions.
If your grandson's parents are being too passive I have some suggestions for you to deal with that

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If there is anything else I can do let me know. Your concern is well placed and your grandson is in need of some help right now.