Hi! I believe I can be of help with this issue.
I can imagine how frustrating this situation must be for you. The dynamics here are not good at all. That the teachers and administration are not addressing the bullying issue in their school is the biggest difficulty in making things better here. That the parents are wimping out just makes the dynamic even worse.
There is so much awareness about bullying and anti-bullying campaigns are so prominent today that it's unusual to have a school administration that is trying to sweep it under the rug. The first goal would be to see if you can get the parents to contact the school board or district superintendent's office and be more proactive in getting the board/superintendent to get the administration on board and shaped up. You seem like the only spunky one here with some courage (other than this unique boy), so maybe you can get them to do this or you yourself can light a fire under the district.
That the boy has spunk is really wonderful. His religious teaching is fantastic. What a clever way of doing it. I don't know that you want to start a whole uproar with the school where if they suspend him for religious proselytizing he takes them to court. There have been some prominent cases like that making national news. But my recommendation to you is to praise him for his charisma, gumption, and courage. Helping him define in himself what his strengths are, that is, how he can translate his beliefs in goodness into action to get his bullies to stop is the strategy here. You're trying then to not just bolster his self worth. That is important. But you're using self worth bolstering as a way to give him a sense of empowerment: he doesn't have to feel like a victim. He has the opportunity to try to help them do better.
So first, this is putting them in the weaker position (they need to do better) and him in the stronger position (he's a good boy with good values who's trying to help them). The important thing is: it is not his RESPONSIBILITY for them to BE better. That's their responsibility. He's a hero simply for trying to help. That's very important.
He may very well fail and they may still continue. Too bad for them is the attitude. For it to spoil his learning and studying is a shame. That's the attitude about that. In other words, he shouldn't LET it spoil his studying. By doing well in school he is continuing to show them that they're the weak ones who are a shame and he's not a victim but a good kid who is doing what will make him happy and successful.
This is the strategy. If you can get the parents on board. All the better. If not, you ave to try to be as much an influence as you can.
Here are some books that might be of use:
Confessions of a Former Bully
by Trudy Ludwig. She's written a lot of good books on this theme. This one is about a girl. So you'll have to see if it will work for him as boys are sensitive at this age. But he might be able to use it in his "campaign" to reform the bullies.No Kidding About Bullying: 125 Ready to Use Activities
by Naomi Drew. This will be great for the parents if they can be stirred to action as well as for him.The Juice Box Bully
by Sornson and Dismondy. This might be a bit young. But it's really a neat story about getting the bullies "reformed". Sounds great for him!Stand Up For Yourself
by Patty Criswell. A little similar to the one above, but it's about a girl.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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