I shall gibe that referral a look. My weight gaining actually began when I was only about 15 years old, long before any of the later crap. Even so, I myself don't feel that anything way out of the ordinary did
happen to me even later - a poor marriage, there are millions of those, finding that my husband abused a child, again, there are zillions of those, losing a beloved lover, happens every day, being broke to the penny with an infant adopted from my own sister and rejected by my family, happens all the time to people, I had a job with my airline, I always had security and a place to live, food to eat and feed my children, a car, clothes, my mind and education - I call it being lucky in life - Yes , I was hurt and traumatized but so is everybody at some point, that is part of the human condition, still I have a total history of weight gain and loss, diets, and fasting, success and failure, but always, always, the 100 pound weight gains every so often, then the loss via starvation diets. I have never broken this cycle, not even having a gastro by pass.
Horrible things happen to others, the death or murder of a child, homelessness, grave illness, I have had none of these. I almost feel ashamed to complain about anything. Yet, here I am, desperate and again gaining weight. I am desperate to find what and how this is again happening and why I seem powerless to correct and reverse it. Thanks for being so kind to me. I do feel deserted and abandoned by many of those I have loved in my life.