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My 17 yr old daughter has said that she is sexually attracted to her dad. When asked he says he does not feel attracted to her and doesn't treat her any differently from her sister. She has made several threats against his life and generally avoids him when possible. Meanwhile I'm caught in the middle. To me he does treat her differently and tries to cater to her every wish though she refuses to accept anything from him. I tried to give him the opportunity to talk to her and I had to stop the whole situation after I felt a weird vibe and saw the way he was smiling and looking at her. Yet he denies he's did nothing wrong and that I'm wrong to make him move out. My daughter feels that he has taken her innocence and feels dirty because of him even though he's never toched her. What can I do to help her?
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This is a very difficult situation. It seems that your daughter has developed inappropriate feelings but at the same time she seems to be angry. There is usually a basis for anger or even sexual thoughts towards a parent. It is unlikely that she would come up with this for no reason. That is not to say that your daughter may not have her own mental health issues. She may be acting out for her own reasons. There is a thin line between feeling angry towards him and feeling romantic towards him. The reason for any intense feelings towards him have to be identified. Although you have been in counseling with her it is suggested that you locate additional family counseling. Her issues have not been resolved. As far as your husband if you think he is returning her emotions than that is an issue that must be considered. He should not be in the home if he is feeling this way towards her. His behavior is an indicator especially favoritism but his subtle behaviors are just as important. Decide if he can be trusted if she is acting out. Attend counseling with your family maybe with or without dad.

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