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Experience:  15 years clinical experience in all areas of psychiatry. Holistic and practical approach.
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ADMIN ONLY   I have been depressed since January. In March I was placed in Mayo Clinic Generose hospital and the did ECT which was helping until I found out my mom had breast cancer. Needless to say the memory loss after 8 treatments made me further depressed and unable to live without being suicidal. I have had 5 hospitalizations since March my last being in August of this year. (all has been this year) I was told I was an unusual case and they could not help me so referred me to McKleen hospital in Boston which I can't afford to go. This weekend I have seriously been thinking of ending it all because I don't know where to get help and I won't go back to Mayo Clinic. They put me on effexor but have not looked at other drugs. Am I really not going to get better.
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  psychlady replied 5 years ago.
I will only answer your question if you aren't suicidal
Customer: replied 5 years ago.
so you can't help a person in crisis.
Expert:  psychlady replied 5 years ago.
I just want to address idea about whether you will get better
Customer: replied 5 years ago.
ok so I guess I am not helpable that is what I figured so I guess ending my life is the only way out of this deep dark unhappy life
Expert:  Dr. K replied 5 years ago.
If you feel like you are about to act on the suicidal thoughts, you must either 1) call 911, 2) go the nearest mental health crisis center (it's a good idea to call ahead & make sure they accept walk in patients), or 3) go the nearest ER. If you are not feeling safe to drive find alternate methods of transportation.

You can also call 1-800-suicide.

If you feel safe that you won't act on your suicidal thoughts, you should still see a live professional. If you can't find a good referral through friends, family, or your doctor, try using the internet or phone book. If you don't have insurance, most communities have a community mental health agency that can help patients.

Depression is best treated holistically. Medications can be helpful for some people. I also recommend 1) psychotherapy with a live therapist, and 2) learning some formal relaxation therapy.

I know you said you've tried therapy and medications, but I need to make sure you have had good trials. If you tell me more about your medication trials, I can give more specific feedback. Also, a minimum trial of psychotherapy is weekly for 6 months. Many people continue to benefit from even longer term therapy. If therapy doesn't feel like it's helping as you go through it, the solution is to tell your therapist about it. Either 1) you figure out some goals and the therapist can adjust style to help you accomplish them, or 2) you may realize the therapist isn't a good fit & he or she can help you find someone else.

The last 2 treatments I mentioned are proven by sophisticated studies using brain scans (CT, MRI, EEG, pet scans) to improve brain function.

Also, by formal relaxation therapy I mean yoga, meditation, or similar methods. Having relaxing hobbies is also important, but not quite the same as formal relaxation therapy.

And remember you can't separate emotional health from physical health, so exercise & nutrition are vital.

There are also several self-help books you can read which can help including: 1) The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra, 2) The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns; 3) The Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) by XXXXX XXXXX, & 4) "The Depression Workbook: A Guide for Living with Depression and Manic Depression" by Mary Ellen Copeland and Matthew McKay.

I hope this helps. Let me know if you need more feedback. Good luck & take care.
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Category: Mental Health
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Experience: 15 years clinical experience in all areas of psychiatry. Holistic and practical approach.
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