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I have an intelligent nine year old daughter. She is very

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Hello. I have an intelligent nine year old daughter. She is very spirited and generally a typical little girl. But I have a huge concern about her fears. this problem has always been an issue since she was a baby to scared to go on the swings. the issue today is that she is a very frightened girl. very scared to go to bed and will call over and over again. knowing she will be punished. she is suffering because of this. this behaviour really doesnt seem normal. and i feel for her because i know she doesnt want to be like this. she also will not go upstairs on her own at all. not even for the toilet. and a huge problem that worries me is that i may give her the option to stay up later maybe on a weekend night but she doesnt want to go to bed after nine pm. I dont think she understands why she feels this way. She also struggles with friends as when they call for her, the typical reaction for my daugher is she will only play in the house or garden and does not want to go out and play. I hope you can help. these problems seem to be getting worse and I have tried everything from talking to her to telling her of and punishing her when is needed. I do believe this is a mental health problem. she does not watch any type of horror movies.
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  TherapistMarryAnn replied 6 years ago.

Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.

It sounds like your daughter may have a personality that leans towards being fearful. Some children are bold, some are studious, and others are shy. Your daughter happens to be fearful.

There are ways to address this. The best option is to take her for an evaluation with a mental health therapist. They can determine if there is an origin for your daughter's fears and what can be done for her to help her. She may need short term therapy to help her learn how to face her fears. To find a therapist, talk with her doctor for a referral. You can also search on line at in the US or in the UK.

You can also help her at home. Learn what you can about fears and phobias. This will help you know how to respond to her when she is afraid. Here are some resources to help you:

What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (What to Do Guides for Kids) by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews - for your daughter to read

Freeing Your Child from Anxiety: Powerful, Practical Solutions to Overcome Your Child's Fears, Worries, and Phobias by Tamar Ellsas Chansky

You can find these books on or your local library may have them for you.

I hope this helps,


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