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What is a reasonable discipline for a 15 year old girl (who

What is a reasonable discipline...
What is a reasonable discipline for a 15 year old girl (who will be 16 on July 20) who refuses to do homework/study, has been caught smoking pot more than once, drinking until she is throwing up, lying about her whereabouts, sneaking boys into our home in the middle of the night and having promiscious sex?  This is my step daughter who lives with me and my husband.  These problems have been going on for some time....
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Doctor Blake
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Doctor Blake :

Good afternoon and welcome to JA.

Customer:

hi

Doctor Blake :

First and foremost - it will be essential for you and your husband to agree upon whatever discipline you decide to implement with your daughter (step-daughter). If there is any disagreement between you, your daughter will use this to her advantage to "split" you (not in terms of getting a divorce, but sneaking around with the least restrictive parent to get things she wants.)

Customer:

I agree and have seen this happen

Doctor Blake :

While it is inappropriate to diagnose 3rd party over the internet, the problems you describe are far more pronounced than typical "teenage acting out."

Customer:

she will also go to her mother and get permission to do something that she wants

Customer:

I also agree this is not normal "teenage acting out"

Doctor Blake :

There may be reason to believe there is some significant psychological/psychiatric impairment warranting intervention by professional(s).

Doctor Blake :

This being the case, I would urge you to talk with your husband about considering a formal psychological/psychiatric assessment.

Customer:

we are trying to locate a psychologist now

Doctor Blake :

You may want to check your insurance to see who is covered and then narrow down to somebody who specializes (if possible) in adolescents. You may also want to consider a specialist who deals with substance abuse.

Doctor Blake :

In the event you experience another "crisis point," it may be worth either calling and ambulance or taking her yourself to the ER for an evaluation and possible immediate treatment (which might include a brief stay in inpatient).

Doctor Blake :

In the meanwhile, you and your husband (and any other children) would likely benefit from some family therapy to help bolster your relationships while the "tornado" is loose in the living room. It will also set the stage to let the family know, "Yes, mom and dad are aware of the problem, and we're working to find a solution, as the parents who are in charge here."

Doctor Blake :

To answer your question directly about discipline, I believe your problems (as you described them at least) go far beyond the question of "simple discipline." I think your daughter is trying to communicate to you that she is out of control and, likely, in a considerable amount of pain/fear/hopelessness.

Doctor Blake :

By no means has your daughter earned privileges to drive a car (her's or anyone's)... and this needs to be spelled out NOW if there is any misconception that she'll get to add an auto to her arsenal of misbehavior.

Doctor Blake :

So, I would urge you to consider the next steps as being: a thorough psychological/psychiatric evaluation and the implementation of therapy/treatment as soon as possible. These behaviors are serious and potentially dangerous to herself and others.

Doctor Blake :

Because you are both still the parents and she is still a minor, she does have to consent to participate... you just have the challenge of getting her there. :)

Doctor Blake :

The second step would be to get yourself (and your family) the support you need. This often happens in the context of family therapy (which may be recommended for your daughter anyhow)... but you'll need it nonetheless.

Doctor Blake :

Ahhh.

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