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I am sorry about the delay. I could not get online. It is excellent that you have an appointment with a counselor. If you have a pattern of looking for men who do not support themselves then this definitely should be addressed. This can be a sign of low self esteem or being overly kind and letting others take advantage of you. Either is a problem. If this is the case with this partner then you should work with the counselor to end a relationship that is not based on healthy amounts of give and take. If you feel that he is reaching his potential (and it may not be what you would like but is his potential) then you can continue the relationship as you fill the role of provider. There is nothing wrong with your making more money but if you see him as lazy that is of course an issue for counseling. Why do you choose lazy and make yourself the nurturing partner. Decide on what makes you happy
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I have good esteem and am rather successful. I have been known to be overly kind...I am a good person with lots of compassion and a large heart. The adivse is rather short and not much help. Since the response took so long, I addressed the issue myself today with my fiance. He works full time already, but because of his debt, I expect him to exhaust efforts to try to find a supplemental job to eliminate that debt. Since he and I have been together so long, we really have no problems communicating, but addressing the issue with him was causing me anxiety and reminding me of those anxieties from past relationships. I found that addressign the issue with him turned out very positive and we are working together to review all his financial information again and moving in a positive, forward motion. So, long story short...I had anxiety and fear about addressing this issue and addressed it anyway.
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