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Experience:  Licensed Ph.D. Clinical Health Psychology with 30 years of experience in private practive and as a clinical psychology university professor.
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I am being droppedby silence. i have known him 40 yrs and

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i am being droppedby silence. i have known him 40 yrs and dated 9 mos,..i am very much more wel educated..4 more degrees and quite a bit more weathy.......his pride....should i let him go i love him,,,,or cry myself to sleep and not move on too tired for this husband died 7 years ago and this is my first try aat trust
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr. Michael replied 6 years ago.
Hello. I believe I can be of help to you with this issue.

You think he has decided that he would feel intimidated by you, or feel like the 'lesser' partner in a relationship with you, because of your education and earning power? Is this the best guess you have about why he has suddenly cut off contact with you?

Typically as you know, when men suddenly drop someone they have been seeing for this length of time, it is a fairly simple matter of them finding someone else that has turned their eye. This is a rather shallow perspective on older men, but it is normatively, the most common 'reason' for being suddenly, inexplicably dropped. I ask about this second possibility because if it is true, there isn't much you can do of course to 'win' him back and one should try to move on as quickly as possible. But, on the other hand, you probably COULD work out the issue noted in the first paragraph (above) with him, if this is the only obstacle. What do you think? Have you gently confronted the pride issue, educational/background differences, etc., and provided accommodations or remedies to him about them, to this point?
Expert:  Dr. Michael replied 6 years ago.
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