Hi there, Thanks for your response. Your son exhibit some features of Borderline personality disorder
. I do not see he meets the full criteria as I am not sure of the intensity and frequency of his anger, rage, outbursts and meltdowns. Yes, it is possible for your son to have BPD features.
I wrote Borderline Personality disorder (BPD)'s features and symptoms as follows.
Borderline Personality disorder is emotional regulation problems. BPD is a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image, affect, and marked impulsivity. A person with BPD is intensely fearful of abandonment and may engage in impulsive and extreme behaviors to keep other people with them. Disturbances in self-image are often manifested as frequent shifts in career goals and sexual identity, while impulsivity is reflected in unsafe sex practices, reckless driving, financial irresponsibility, and substance abuse
Borderline personality disorder symptoms may include:
Impulsive and risky behavior, such as risky driving, unsafe sex, gambling sprees or illegal drug use
Strong emotions that wax and wane frequently
Intense but short episodes of anxiety or depression
Inappropriate anger, sometimes escalating into physical confrontations
Difficulty controlling emotions or impulses
Fear of being alone
Does your son fit most of the features and symptoms?
If he has BPD, he may need treatment - individual and group therapy and/or medication - sooner or later.
You as family may need help and support to associate with your daughter with BPD. You may need to get support from a counselor. You may need to be patient with his behavior - angry outbursts and erratic behavior as he has this illness. You may not overreact to any outbursts, emotional displays, or other behavior of him, as your overreaction may be an escalating factor in his behavior.
However, set limits with his behavior without high emotion. You may not change yourself to accommodate his behavior as he may try to manipulate you. Keep an honest perspective, especially in regard to your own needs. Develop friendships and social interactions with other people, making sure you are not sacrificing your own quality of life in your efforts to deal with your son.
Your son may need Dialectical-Behavior therapy (DBT) or Psychodynamic
I conducted research on therapists specializing in BPD in your city.
1. Dr. Jason Seidel, Psychologist , PsyD
The Colorado Center for Clinical Excellence
1720 S. Bellaire St.
Denver, Colorado 80222
2. Dr. Sandy Novak, Marriage & Family Therapist , PhD
Boulder Transformational Therapy
1480 Lee Hill Dr
Boulder, Colorado 80304
3. Dr. Kathleen D Robinson, Psychologist , PsyD
1720 S Bellaire Street
Denver, Colorado 80222
4. Dr. Rebecca I Howard, Counselor , PsyD , LPC
Dr. Rebecca I. Howard, PsyD, LLC
609 W. Littleton Blvd
Littleton, Colorado 80120
5. Dr. Peter Solon, Psychologist , PhD
Peter Solon, Ph.D.
Boulder, Colorado 80303
You and your son may decide which therapist your son works with after meeting or talking with them.
Please let me know if you have more questions or I have overlooked any.
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