Okay, I understand what is happening. Your husband is now ready to put the past behind you and move forward, but you are still feeling hurt and resentment for the way he humiliated you, due to his own jealousy and hurt etc.
I understand why these feelings would be there for you, as obviously his choice to be hurtful in response to his own hurt, is destructive and harmful, rather than helpful.
That being said, the cycle of destruction does need to stop somewhere. And so, even though you feel like hurting him again in reaction, this just continues this vicious cycle and only hurts you both in the long run.
What I would really suggest you both do, is agree to letting go of the past and the hurt and starting anew from this day forward. However, you could really benefit from some counseling either together as a couple, or even by yourself so that you can work through and resolve this lingering revenge and hurt you feel towards him. That is what I suggest you do, so that you are able to move into a more positive and healthy relationship with him, with a clean slate.
When he has a bad day, you tell him that you can see he is feeling stressed and then bring him a nice drink or a dinner, etc. allow him some space to just relax and be alone if needed, or ask him what you could do to make him feel better. you need to remember the good things about the marriage, and not focus on the hurt you each have caused one another. even if you don't feel like it, be nurturing and affectionate and do one nice thing for each other every day, and say one nice thing, or what you appreciate about him so that he knows you still value him.
I would suggest you seek out a counselor in your area soon, without delay. Please click ACCEPT button for this answer, and feel free to continue discussion even after clicking accept. Thank you.