How JustAnswer Works:
  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.
Ask TherapistMarryAnn Your Own Question
TherapistMarryAnn, Therapist
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 5809
Experience:  Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.
Type Your Mental Health Question Here...
TherapistMarryAnn is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Don't know what category this belongs in. I'm an adult

This answer was rated:

Don't know what category this belongs in. I'm an adult recently diagnosed with Asperger's and my couselor has given me the assignment of finding out who I really am, because I don't know. Spent my life being whoever the peroswn "in charge" wanted me to be. Now, of course, I have no idea how to accoumplish this task. How does a perosn discove their true self, personality, and identity after submerging and denying it for decades? I need a path or process to follow1 Thanks

Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.

That is an interesting assignment your counselor gave you and an important one. Though it has no easy answers, I believe I can help you start your search.

Begin by taking a look at what life means to you. In other words, what meaning do you assign to your life everyday? When you wake up in the morning, why do you get up and start your day? What motivates you?

You can also use your senses. What smells good to you. What are your favorite scents? What food do you find appealing? What sounds make you feel relaxed? Which ones irritate you?

Look at your interests. Do you like to read? What are your favorite authors or types of books. Why are they your favorite? Do you like water or are you more of a mountain type person? What hobbies do you enjoy?

What makes you laugh? Cry? Become upset? Angry?

Do you like crowds or are you more introverted (liking to be alone more)?

By asking yourself these questions, you can get a better picture of who you are. You need to reinforce these findings so you start to understand yourself better and learn what pleases you and what things get you mad. By understanding your world better, you learn more control over it and need to rely less on others to define you.

I hope this has helped you,

TherapistMarryAnn and other Mental Health Specialists are ready to help you

Related Mental Health Questions