Hi, Thanks for waiting. I can imagine how worried and anxious you must have been about your husband's condition at times. It sounds like your husband has social anxiety
. Perhaps, social anxiety may cause or contribute to his sexual anxiety.
He may benefit from having a Cognitive-Behavior therapy (CBT). CBT is effective for anxiety, depression and sexuality issues. CBT consists of Self-Monitoring, Relaxation strategies, Exposure treatments, Cognitive therapy. There are several ways to find a psychologist or psychotherapist who takes your insurance. 1. You can call your insurance company and get a list of providers for him in your area. 2. You can search a licensed psychotherapist on internet- such as the PSYCHOLOGY TODAY website. Go to (http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ppc/prof_search.php?iorb=4764) and enter your zip code and optional category of specialty such as anxiety. Read psychotherapists’ profile to see if he or she specializes in Cognitive-behavior therapy. You may also want to create your mental image of psychotherapist that he wants to work with – Male or female? To note, many therapists offer initial consultation for free. So he can see it as an informational meeting. He can ask any question. He can also negotiate psychotherapy fee and number of sessions. If he seeks a low fee counseling and has no health insurance, she may call The United Way toll free # 211 to find the community mental health centers in your area in which he can get counseling to treat social phobia even without health insurance. In addition, you may encourage him to try some or all of the following to reduce anxiety and improve mood - 1. Exercise moderately, but regularly, 2. Eat healthy but delicious meals, 3. Regularize your sleep cycle, 4. Don't drink to excess or abuse drugs, 5. Spend some time every day in play, 6. Develop recreational outlets that encourage creativity, 7. Distance yourself from destructive situations or people, 8. Practice mindfulness meditation
, or walk, or an intimate talk, every day, 9. Allow yourself to feel pride in your accomplishments, 10, Listen to compliments and expression of affection, 11. Build and use a support system, 12. Pay more attention to small pleasures and sensations, 13. yoga, meditation, Acupuncture, Guided imagery, and massage therapy may help. Additionally, Biofeedback may work for his anxiety. Biofeedback is a self-control technique since it involves having a client to learn to modify his or her own behaviors and is based, like many other self-control procedur es, on the principle of operant conditioning. The biofeedback may work for anxiety, stress
, insominia and depression. Please contact - The association for Psychophysiology and Biofeedback (http://www.aapb.org/consumers.html) for resources and to find a provider in your area.
Please let me know if you have more questions or I have overlooked any. P.S. Please remember to click the green accept button. Feel free to continue the discussion; my goal is to get you the best answers possible. Warm regards,