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Arundhati, Counselor & Psychotherapist
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I am divorced, but Ex keep on sms and calling me his wife

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I am divorced, but Ex keep on sms and calling me his wife
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Arundhati replied 6 years ago.

Thank you for writing in to Just Answer.

It sounds like you your husband is either in denial or is reaching out to you because he still hasn't adjusted to his new reality of life without you. It is often times difficult to distance oneself emotionally when even a relationship/marriage is over.

You and your husband divorced for a reason and I'd encourage you to remind yourself of that and not respond to your husband as that can lead to a prolonged unhealthy relationship between the two of you. You could even talk to him and ask him to not maintain contact. Until you are at a place where you are not in the least impacted by his reaching out, it is advisable to not maintain contact.

Post-divorce typically is a time when some healing is necessary. Are you currently in therapy? If not, you might consider it as a place to talk about your feelings, and address how your husband's contacting you makes you feel.

I hope this is helpful.

Please let me know if you have additional questions and clarifications.

Warm regards,

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